Oxajil said:whitecoast said:
A lot of these spontaneous solution don't normally address the psychosocial roots of the problems (to the extent that looking funny can even be considered a "problem"... Sometimes I think people just need to increase their Openess personality trait re: tattoos and whatnot.)
We may have been programmed to think that "accepting" people no matter how they present themselves is the "right" thing to do, but at what point should we draw the line and share our thoughts as to what is normal and clearly abnormal?
I suppose the line would be, "if they asked." And they normally don't. "Clearly abnormal" is also constrained by culture as well. People normally don't regard those with circumcisions or pierced ears or shaved heads as being part of "mod culture" but they are in an objective sense.
Pierced ears is a good example because it's considered so normal that it doesn't arouse the disgust emotion in us. When we see something abnormal about a person, our system one subconsciously assumes they have some disease we risk catching by associating with them. This is the root of the emotion disgust, and it's certainly not applicable to pierced and inked people. So when one removes that instinctive basis, as with pierced ears, what's left? Would we be discussing raising our objections to those people and treating them less respectfully or hospitably, so they'll change their ways? Would we even be having this conversation?
If we would be open to welcome such behavior, we would basically say that mutilating the self is a good thing. That wouldn't help them, or us.
You don't have to approve of someone's behavior (in the sense of whether you yourself would engage in it) in order to treat them well or respectfully as a matter of external consideration. How many people a day would we admonish for their poor diet, television taste, or alcohol use?
When I encounter such people I'm impartial to their mods or admire the art if it actually shows some sophistication and talent (regardless of whether the body's the best place to showcase it). If they ask me what makes people get mods or tattoos, I would probably speculate about the pursuit of uniqueness, or subconsciously displaying the suffering or hardships they may have gone through, etc. I'm curious to know what kind of prospective studies have actually been done on the relationship between mod culture and personality, mental illness, etc.
I also wouldn't say that by engaging in such acts (in an extreme manner), they are acknowledging their pain or suffering, it's actually the opposite of what someone would do if they would truly acknowledge them responsibly. Fwiw.
I do agree that extreme acts are more likely a subconscious expression and outlet of it, rather than a conscious one. It's almost another form of somatization. Of course it's not ideal. Nothing unconscious is ever ideal, usually. I do think this culture will go away when society becomes more enlightened and capable of handling and healing trauma as a whole. But not through ostracism programs. Through eliminating the root causes that may cause people to mod themselves.
Laura said:Yeah. Why don't we just increase our openness to psychopaths!
I think this is apples and oranges. Psychopaths harm others around them. People with mods (or sugar addictions) only harm themselves. I'm not going to go out of my way to criticize people to try and save them from their own decisions and lessons. I WILL speak up if someone's actions are harming others though, since the victims often are not empowered to even have a voice or speak for themselves.