Aya, this struggle with your feelings of guilt and shame about upsetting your parents and people back in Japan must be difficult to deal with (on top of your worries about your job). Remember that this is what the General Law does when we are making big decisions towards working for our destiny. It might be a good idea to make a list (if you haven't already) of all the reasons why you have left Japan, then keep it close to you and read it everytime you dream of retuning to your normal life! Although you conquered the first hurdle of choosing to leave, the choice is still ongoing. You are saying contradictory things in your latest post, but that is understandable because your thoughts are being pulled from one idea to the opposite.
First up, your job situation. Personally, it wouldn't be the thing uppermost in my mind when the world around me is undergoing nuclear meltdown. But anyway, it's the most pressing issue for you just now, so let's try to look at things with a clear head.
Aya said:
I found out about my situation about my work. Since I gave them notice to leave the store for short while, they told me that I can still keep my job if I come back within 3 months.
On top of that, if I get a doctors note, I can still get my salrary for 3months that I miss without a problem.
Great! As far as your current job is concerned, that gives you a window of three months.
Aya said:
However, the probelem is that there is no garantee that I can relocate my job. After all these troubles (troubles for them in a sence), I am not willing to go back and work at the same place.
You have caused no one any trouble. Your feelings of guilt brought on by your parents are clouding the facts: the facts are that your employer has said the job is still yours for up to 3 months, during which you can get paid if you get a doctor's note (which I would be doing if I was in your situation). If your employer thought you were "trouble", would they have given you 3 months? AND advised you that they will pay your salary during that time if you get a doctor's note?
Aya said:
My parents are very upset ( they are probably freaking out!) about what I am doing. Their advice is that I should come back immediately.. so that I can have chance to work there again without much problems.
Yes, don't make waves, you're making us look bad! You're being unpatriotic! Get back in line, don't think for yourself! Obey!
Aya said:
They think that once I send them a doctors note, it's going to stick around with me as a record for whole life, so I am going to lose chances in the coming future.
The coming future? Which one would that be? Is that the one where everybody lives happily ever after in homes heated by energy from nuclear reactors? Or is it the one where incoming comets bring events like what happened on March 11 on a daily basis? I don't know if it's a class or cultural thing, but where I come from, people pull out of work by pretending to be sick all the time! It's not that they're lazy, it's that they have better things to be doing with their valuable time! Anyway, I won't belabour the point; I think you know that this is more guilt projection onto you by people who have chosen not to see the situation as it is.
Aya said:
They are also telling me that my company now wants me to quite the job because a selfish and self-centered person like me keep making troubles so they wouldn't like it. (This is very true. Especially it seems like they are not happy with dealing with irregular personal problems.)
They're lying to you Aya. It's understandable though. They want you to return and continue to live the lie with them. Everyday you spend away is another day in which they are tormented by the doubt that you may just be doing the right thing. Let's say, for the sake of argument (even though I guarantee you they aren't), that everyone back home is gossiping about you and how much "trouble" you are. Good! The more the merrier. That means word will spread about another person who left because of the dangers of staying. Maybe others will take notice and follow your example.
Aya said:
Like they said, if I quite my job, it is true that it is going to be lot harder to get another one as a full time worker. I know they are right about it.
Horse hockey. You will find whatever you need if you just put your mind to it and let the Universe meet you halfway. Whether it's back in Japan or in Canada or elsewhere.
Aya said:
Also, she is stating to tell me about my mistakes in the past, which she wants to say that the same thing is going to happen! (Well, at least I have better idea what I am doing now than the past.) Afterall, I am very sad that she started to blame on me what I have been doing...detox and being strict about diet. "You were not used to be like that! Why you are so being strict about diet and worried about toxins etc etc..." She was being covert aggressive all the way through the talk on a phone.
Aha! The job issue is only tangential to the real issue: the real issue is that you are working towards your own destiny. Your mother loves you to the extent that she understands what love is. But if she really loved you, she would not be projecting her fears into you in order to manipulate and terrorise you into returning and keeping you from growing as part of this network.
Aya said:
I feel so pitiful (which I shouldn't be, I know!) to stay away from the country to be safe, while everyone else is facing dangers and doing something heroic.
Heroic? That isn't heroic Aya. It's suicidal martyrdom! For what? Heroic is to take a decision like you have done, to go against the flow when you have only your own reason (with help from this network) to base your decision on.
Aya said:
Also. now NHK is encouraging mothers to let infants to drink tap water because there is no immediate danger. Probably too many people are now buying bottles of water so that goverment is telling such thing to reduce panic amoung the public. I think they are probably lying (or are not telling the whole story for sure!). I cannot stand what I read from the Sings and some English articles, and what I read in Japanese are so different. There are so many contradictions...it blows my mind.
It's absolute madness, isn't it? Everyone would rather commit collective hari-kiri than openly discuss the hell they are descending into. And yes, the Japanese media is lying. The situation is completely out of control.
Bible said:
"As it was in the days of Noah, so shall it be in the days of the Son of man, They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all (Luke 17:26-27)."
Most people will just continue their regular lives, failing to act on the signs that are all around them, right up until the very last moment, when there will be "weeping and gnashing of teeth", agonising guilt and terror in the face of realising their whole life had been reduced to a ashes, a dream in the past. People are continuing to choose to believe government lies in the face of imminent (2-3 years) global catastrophe.
Now, the situation in Japan is that the world has not come to an end. Oh no, it's still business as usual! Roads have been rebuilt already, the government tells everyone everything is just A-OK, people prepare for Hanami under the cherry blossom trees even as 10,000 people are still missing, even as radiation levels at Fukushima soar to
10 MILLION TIMES NORMAL LEVEL!!!
When there is a shock like this, people react in one of two basic ways: they either use the energy from the shock to reinforce the subjective bubble of reality they have been living in for their whole lives, encasing themselves in deeper layers of cement which they believe will protect them from ever having to experience such a shock again... Or, they take stock of the situation, consider the bigger picture, then DO something to realign their own reality with the glimpse of objective reality they can see through the shock.
If you go back to Japan, you will be exposed to high levels of radiation. This is a fact. What you cannot know now is just how badly it will affect you. You and everyone around you might, to outward appearances, be just fine... but all the while the radiation is eating you from the inside out. And when it comes time to go in the ark, so to speak, you may not have the strength, will or the ability to do so.
And anyway, Aya, why be so identified with this job? Your ties to family, friends, culture, your whole life being uprooted, I can understand why that is very difficult to change. But your job? These are your parents' fears. You speak English, you have talents. Can you look for work in Canada? Can you apply for an extended visa there?