Angela said:I am much calmer now. Since I have started the elimination diet and the EE I feel better than I have in a long time. There is just one thing that bothers me. All but 3 people in my family will want me to go the standard route with whatever the doctor wants to throw at me. They just will not understand my decision. I haven't even told them yet, just told them I will know something when I go back on the 19th. I have considered telling them that all is well and it was just benign and nothing more to worry about just so I can focus on my healing without all the flack they are going to give me. I don't really want to lie to them so that is what I have been thinking about lately.
In Search of the Miraculous said:"This fear of losing sincerity is of course self-deception, one of those formulas of lying upon which human weaknesses are based. Man cannot help identifying and considering inwardly and he cannot help expressing his unpleasant emotions, simply because he is weak. Identifying, consid-ering, the expressing of unpleasant emotions, are manifestations of his weakness, his impotence, his inability to control himself. But not wishing to acknowledge this weakness to himself, he calls it 'sincerity' or 'honesty' and he tells himself that he does not want to struggle against sincerity, whereas in fact he is unable to struggle against his weaknesses.
"Sincerity and honesty are in reality something quite different. What a man calls 'sincerity' in this case is in reality simply being unwilling to restrain himself. And deep down inside him a man is aware of this. But he lies to himself when he says that he does not want to lose sincerity.
"So far I have spoken of internal considering. It would be possible to bring forward many more examples. But you must do this yourselves, that is, you must seek these examples in your observations of yourselves and of others.
Angela said:Just thought I would update here, mostly for my own peace of mind because this network really helps. I always feel better once I have shared with you.
Well that last surgery I had was basically to get a biopsy of my tumor. It was positive for cancer, and I wasn't surprised because I was told that cancer cells were present in my urine specimen. Apparently my tumor is very large, over five centimeters, and it is taking up half of my bladder.
Yesterday I went to see a doctor at the University of Washington to go over my options. My bladder must be removed because the cancer had spread into the muscle wall of my bladder. He explained the whole procedure to me and it sounds really scary. Its a 9 hour surgery and he will be removing my bladder, uterus, ovaries, and cutting out a piece of my large intestine to create a new "bladder" for me. I will have to stay in the hospital for at least a week, and recovery is around six weeks if all goes well.
He is fairly confident that the cancer hasn't spread outside of my bladder to any other part of my body so that is good. I am actually quite scared of the whole idea. But I don't know of any other way. I have been following the elimination diet and doing EE regularly and I am feeling really good. But I wonder if I am doing the right thing. The doctor mentioned something about doing chemo before the surgery to shrink the tumor, but I let him know that chemo wasn't something that I wanted and he seemed to accept that.
I am in alot of pain all the time. They have me on some painkillers that help keep it bearable. I am really positive most of the time, but once in awhile I wonder if I am doing enough.