Hi AD
I've been through very similar situations over the years, so I'll try and share what worked the best.
The loosing weight thread riclapaz linked above, I posted too in 2010 about similar things.
I also posted to this
thread in 2014.
The most long lasting effects on my health (and weight)
here (if you are Mexican you have a higher than average change of having this mutation), and
here.
I'd drop the coconut milk for sure - one of the things I learned is that I don't obviously react to a lot of foods.
What is likely happening though is my gut get's inflamed (do you get neck/head/shoulder pain? that's usually a sign), which means if I eat the wrong thing it blocks the absorption of nutrients. I loose weight.
Your description of your stools suggest a digestive problem (or several).
Gut healing, have a look at Berberine (it was the only thing that healed my guts out of every other supplement I tried, taken along side the MTHFR protocol) and bone broth along with the threads in this section.
Digestive support. When you are stressed/tired, your body struggles to digest food properly.
Candida may be inflaming your guts and/or eating up the nutrients you need. Look into Bromelain.
Liver stress, be careful of things that stress your liver (chemicals, some supplements, infections) and support it with Milk Thistle.
Get the right probiotics.
The second things I learned over this time was stress and poor sleep make me loose weight. A week of stress or interupted sleep and I'll loose a few kg! I had to drop the cold showers for that reason.
Going keto is also stressful, so is candida or other infections.
Thinking in the wrong way is also stressful!
I'm sure some people would be envious of my ability to literally think myself thin
To be specific, I learned I was unaware how stressed I was and would regularly push through tiredness. I also learned that I had
no idea how to deal with emotions healthily.
It's all about energy and resources. Are they getting in ok/are you eating the right things for your body? Can yourody use them or does it need some help? Where are you using the energy (are you in stress mode from wrong thinking, infection, lack of resources getting in, lack of resources to use the fuel - or rest/healing/growth mode)?
It might be worth checking out the
glycine thread too, as my body seems to really need quite a lot of it. It's healing a lot of things and making me stronger. It also stops me feeling fatigued if I eat a lot of meat (at one point I would under eat, because eating enough food to not loose weight would make me feel terrible).
*edit to add*
Eating too much fat (especially late at night) can cause digestive problems and stress the liver too.