I've just catch up with this topic and now I regret that I did not read the whole blog prior to all the comments here because now my observations about them may colored with some bias. But this seems so interesting that I will try to contribute what have seen there.
The first thing is, that the father begin to describe the behavior of his son in an very analytical way, step by step and then, slowly, he changed his style into a more accusative way. I think that Guardian is right:
Guardian said:
Yup, I think you're right on the money! I'm still not convinced the man isn't covering up for the abuse of the child. If he was blogging to expose the perpetrator, that would be one thing...he's not, he's exposing the CHILD.
This is also my own personal summary of all the posts the father write. But I am still not sure why he did this. Now, there are some interesting remarks he made:
Lucas has just started 6th grade. As of today September 30, 2008, here is timeline of behaviors I expect Lucas to follow (assuming he stays with us)…
6th grade – suspended for seriously hurting another student in school.
6th grade - sexually assault a fellow student
6th grade – steal a cellphone and/or a portable game system at least once, probably twice.
7th grade – his first violent act towards one of us (hitting, etc)
7th grade – another break-in
7th grade – another sexual assault
7th grade - another major theft
8th grade – his first rape
8th grade – his first serious attempt on our lives (knife, etc)
8th grade - take our car for a joyride
8th or 9th grade – his first gun
9th grade – his second and third rape
9th grade – his first drug possession charge
10th grade – honestly don’t see us being involved in his life at this point.
As I read this, I read over the little word "expect" and wonder what kind of criminal he describes here, though a serious one. But then, "10th grade"? The boy is just 11.... and then *click*, I got it. Wow, what a perfect example of the "tunnel vison" and it seems that he is pretty sure about what he thinks he knows about this child. He sure never heard of endless possibilities^^.
And then there is a inconsistency in his description what makes me wonder that he did not go into details:
Our neighbor, the one whose house he broke into, was trying to encourage Lucas to behave better. She told him that if he did all his chores every day for the next 50 days, she would give him $50 so he could play football. But for every day he did not complete his chores, he would lose a dollar. Lucas told her he could definitely earn the $50. At the end of the 50 days she asked Lucas how many days did he do all his chores. He had to tell her the truth: only one day
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Did I read that correct? He was telling the truth? Didn't the father say that he is a pathological liar?
Most of the time he would lie for personal gain, usually to hide something he had done. I’d ask him if he took a cookie. Immediately, without hesitation he would answer, “No”, even with the crumbs falling off the side of his mouth.
He did. So, why he's telling the truth? Its about money! Was he forced to tell the truth, or did he do this just out of himself? I think this would be something worth to elaborate deeper.
And through the whole blog I get the impression that he talking about an adult person:
Lucas is the stereotypical ‘bad boy’ that many girls find appealing. He is good-looking, charming, confident, and acts like he doesn’t care. He will easily be able to ‘get’ a girl. But he simply doesn’t have the ability to ‘keep’ her.
How do he know that? He's just 11 years old.
And with the treatment he receives from his parents, he sure doesn't get a chance to develop whatever is within him:
Lucas is on lockdown imposed by us. He is not allowed outside the house unless escorted by one of us. School is the ONLY exception. Inside the house he is not allowed to watch TV, play video games, or listen to the radio. Most of his toys have been confiscated. And we don’t play with him.
He spends most days sitting in his room reading or staring at the ceiling. Every once-in-a-while he mentions that he is bored, but otherwise he is quite happy with this arrangement.
We have been in full lockdown for 8 months now.
Wow, if he isn't a psychopath already, he definitely will become one.
And what strikes me odd is the blindness about his obvious sexual behavior:
I focused on Tiger and asked him why the hole was where it was, why wasn’t the hole in Tiger’s side or in her head? He said that part was just closest. I asked him if he stuck anything else in Tiger. He was silent for a long time. I asked if he stuck his fingers into Tiger. He nodded. I asked if he stuck anything else into Tiger. He started crying and admitted that he stuck his penis into Tiger.
I asked how often he did this. He admitted to doing this once or twice a week for about two months. I asked him again why the hole was located where it was. He finally admitted that he made the hole there because that is where the hole on a girl is.
I understand the sex part. He was acting out things that he has seen. It's the violence that concerns me. Stabbing, ripping, especially in this particular part of the body, all done while angry at us. This is something new.
Together with the blood part and the anal self abuse, it's obvious that the father did NOT understand the "sex part" at all. I have to agree that here could be something completely different to discover and that the child suffered (or still suffers) a serious trauma.
After the reading, the whole thing left me with a bad flavour and I don't know where this comes from. Maybe the father has some hidden intent here, but I think, it is more likely just an unfortunate coincidence (maybe an arranged 4D coincidence?) that such a child met such parents where only damage for both sides could be the result. But I hope that the blog would not be seen as an example in "how to raise a psychopath", because it would shed a bad light on this sensitive subject regarding psychopathy and children in general.
