Hi Memeontheroof, Sometimes these Karmic lessons are hard to discern and sometimes they are just plain hard (difficult). You thought you could "fix them" or "neutralize them" and they are petty tyrants?
Are you truly "giving negativity its due by non-participation" or is this a repeat performance of what happened when you were 17?
Is the karmic lesson "Run, Luke! Run!"... (from 'these negative people')? OR...
Is it something else? Something deeper? Like perhaps the super-difficult next-level challenge of standing up for yourself around these negative people by speaking up and establishing boundaries instead of the easier path of running for cover.
One could ask: Why are these particular negative people in your life? Are they there to run away from? Or something else? If you, on some level, chose them to be your parents, and are already karmically linked - why come back to another life together again just to blow things up and run away again? Mouravieff touched on this idea that we keep getting chances to heal the wounds/pay the debt and we often repeat the error again and again making the wound deeper/the debt even bigger; to then have yet another lifetime with an even bigger wound to heal/debt to pay until we finally resolve to face it; to face ourself.
If running away is about being responsible for your own existence in the world without taking from these negative people who are truly unconscious psychopathic monsters, - well, OK.
But my guess is that everybody is wounded. Your description sounded like they were asking for help. Perhaps on a subconscious level they are reaching out in an attempt to mend some of the burned bridges. They are probably severely lacking in communication skills. OR...
Maybe the lesson is the even more difficult, upper level class: "Forgiveness 301".
A little story: A year ago my father passed away. I was there for 10 months being with him, watching him slowly go 'down the tubes' and fade away. It was pathetic, bizarre and painful but we both tried to heal the wounds; acknowledge the sins along the way. He made many mistakes. He had his reasons and excuses. I burned the bridges and I didn't just burn them, I used plenty of dynamite. Sigh. But we clumsily worked through it. We both were seeking a kind of absolution from each other in a direct way even though there was always a certain distance between us and a resistance to the process even to the end. Sigh. We did the best we could. Our intentions were pure even if our results a bit spotty.
Simple Karmic Lessons can be... so huge...overwhelmingly emotional and psychically challenging...ugh...
Maybe, just maybe, your daughter is on to something.