Re: My OP-like friend
wanderer said:
PepperFritz said:
Hi Wanderer:
I am having difficulty discerning what it is you are "reaching out" for here. Could you perhaps articulate more clearly what kind of information/advice/feedback you are looking for? :)
I'm looking for input regarding errors in my thinking about (and posting :/) this, hoping that others might share their experience dealing with OPs. It's a conversation that I would normally have with a close friend, but this forum is the only place where this topic could possibly be discussed, it would make no sense whatsoever to anyone else.
Well I think your first error is in assuming that you are not an OP yourself. I think you are better off thinking in behavioral and psychological terms and leaving the whole speculation that so and so is an OP and you are not.
What does it matter whether this person in question you are discussing is an OP or not an OP? Or you yourself for that matter? The effect on you is the same regardless.
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I have a friend who seemed to be a wise, spiritually oriented person when I first met him many years ago.
Often our first impressions of people are highly projective - for instance the above depends entirely on your subjective views of what is spiritual and what is wise and you probably projected and saw those subjective qualities that may or may not have anything that is really wise and or spiritual.
My friend suffered a horrible childhood with an alcoholic, severely disturbed mother and is badly damaged.
A great majority of the population suffered childhood trauma and abuse in one way or another.
He exhibits some of the qualities of a psychopath - facts do not exist for him and any disagreement is perceived as an attack.
This could be the signs of many psychological pathologies and causes could be genetic, environment brought up in, food, primary physical brain damage, many things.
Oddly, I have never seen any sign of sexuality of any sort in all the years I've known him, although he talks about relationships he has had in the past. He exhibits normal empathy, which I think is sincere.
Lacking more data, this may or may not be odd at all. Sexuality is one of the most messed up things a person has to deal with in an insane world.
What it comes down to I think is whether the relationship is detrimental to your growth, especially if there are signs of harm surfacing directed toward you. Each person has their own path and must form their own kernel within. There is not a lot of in depth data about this person to make any kind of determination as to their condition, but it sounds as if there are some major issues that you cannot help him with.
I do get a sense from your post though that you are mired in the belief that you know what an OP is and you have excluded the possibility that you yourself are one. Big mistake. I also get the sense that you are kind of on a psychopath identification program. I think reading a lot more of the psychological materials to get a better understanding of the psychological spectrum would be of great benefit - narcissism, schizoidal dysfunctions, etc.
Recommended reading is here:
Recommended Reading
This link recommends an order to read the psychological material -
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And don't forget 'Political Ponerology', along with being invaluable in understanding our psychological environment also it has great information in showing us the spectrum of disorder that is out there and in here (inside us also).