Hi All, great thread.
A tricky subject to navigate though and rightly so I think, might seem like going round in circles or endlessly representing the same ideas to try and communicate an idea sometimes but this is important I think and worth having patience with the process.
Think of the mistakes that could be made in rushing to conclusions with this subject. Forming opinions is one thing, allowing these to become too precious, to be set in stone, or even to define one's interactions with others, before said opinions have been tested and exposed to the viewpoint of others could be problematic at best, deeply destructive at worst in my opinion. Testing an idea is a valuable part of discussion where one is aiming to discover objective truth, if the idea does not seem to fit we can work on it, create another better idea!
As we are, it seems that through our general 'make up', characteristics, habits and ides of 'this and that' which we pick up along the way, we all develop 'reading errors' where what we think is so may not in fact be the case, the view often being coloured by our very nature. If we want to know the truth of a thing then I think it is important to remember this idea, lest we get hold of the wrong end of the stick and with the OP "stick" that possibility should not be taken lightly, or so I think.
Ruth said:
I felt that people were not focusing on what I said, but rather the person who had said it, that being me. And that they didn't like disagreement under any circumstances and would do anything to make 'me' the issue, rather than some of the ideas under discussion. I also don't feel that this is a new thing.
The way I picture a discussion reaching a common view is a bit like an orchestra tuning up. At first there might be a racket of sorts, people displaying their bestist flourishes, complicated scales that have been learnt by heart, or just 'blowing out the tubes', but soon it settles to a tuned note that everyone can agree upon and play can commence.
The aim of the orchestra in this case is to discover and play "new chords". For this to work does not mean that everybody has to "agree" with each other and play the
same note, different notes are needed to make the chord, the players experiment to find what is harmonic with the aim and what is discordant. So when a chord is struck and some note or other seems out of place, to many ears it will be very noticeable and the other players might seek to identify the source.
Soon they find the source, a "sharp" note from a violin that does not fit the particular chord being played. "But I am playing the right note, it fits!" protests the violinist. Here they must find if the player is in fact tone deaf or perhaps his "instrument" (hint, hint) might benefit from a little "tuning"?
Ruth said:
It just got to the stage where my big red buttons were being pushed. So, I have removed all my posts that simply were not contributing and you can all go back to discussing only things that you agree with, with people who agree with you. I'm sure you'll all find that much more interesting. Looks like it might save a bit of space too.
"Big red buttons being pushed" might suggest a reading error. If the violinist finds that his fiddle is faulty or one of the strings is out of tune, would he take this so personally, when the subject is not "me", the subject is the violin? If he does indeed take it so, hide the instrument back in its case and storm off (maybe to find a more 'Avant Garde' orchestra where discord is 'all the rage', who knows), you might imagine that some of the other players might be left scratching their heads at this! A great way to avoid being exposed to any discussion of the instrument though, maybe it is a cherished Stradivarias and so already above question?
Yet this is what seems to happen time and again. If Ruth gets onto dodgy ground where ideas are to be exposed to the views of others, where questions are asked, verifications sought, Ruth it seems would rather hide away the 'Strad' and divert attention onto the subject of music in general, on being allowed to play ones own tune, on not being 'manipulated' by the conductor or leaders of the orchestra - who in Ruth's conception may then be viewed as STS manipulators, psychopaths, or OPs themselves: ...an orchestra is just another type of herd after all you know... lol. Always manipulating, pointing out this or that 'note' rather than getting on with the business of playing.
Always quoting Mozart - which is
SO irritating... he's dead get over it! Jeeze seems some people just want to turn everybody into musicians, so they can all be just like them! (Of course that's just the impression I get, I can be wrong).
Ruth said:
You might try getting back to the topic as well, rather than making me the topic. And yeah I can see the funny side of it. You know, I don't think I was asking for any 'lessons', but I'm sure there's one in there for me anyway. Perhaps I should just pay more attention to what other people are asking for.
"Me" is not the topic, it is
"we". We all have reading errors, we all have buttons, themes that are dicussed by Laura at great length on the site, by being here are we not asking to know more about these ideas?