melatonin said:
Im thinking by praying i can somehow sway the outcome in my favour.
Hi melatonin, earlier in the thread someone mentioned as long as our prayers are sincere, they'll be heard. I believe it's hard to be sincere while having the intention of swaying someone at the same time (which seems reflected in the above quote). But I can see there's a lot of difficult things you're confronted with, so it's understandable you just want things to go smoothly and it's seems you're wishing for that however that's meant to happen. Here I can only say that things went more smoothly for me the more real I've been with myself and those around me, and likewise that goes hand in hand with the willingness Ive had to work through the pains that process brings up - like seeing myself warts and all and owning the responsibility for not just that real me in the mirror but my life too. It's sounds like a cliche, but it's still holds true that only we own our lives so we can only change them. And I imagine any being that truly has our best interests at heart and so would be the one you'd hope to answer our prayers, would too want us to come to know ourselves and be fully self responsible. So if our prayers aligned to that, I'd imagine they'd be the one's likely to be answered over those that seek a better outcome. Why I say that is I've noticed in myself that the better outcome I've thought for myself when I was stuck in the thick of things, was often completely opposite to what I've later understood was better for me, if that makes sense. I suppose it's just hard to have perspective when everything feels like its closing in.
It helps for me to consider that I've been through moments that I felt like at the time I just couldn't handle and as I'm here now and have grown somewhat, I have proof that I have the capacity to handle much more than I believe I can. I'm sure that's the same for many of us, despite the fact that we are led to believe we can handle very little, its more of a means of external control than based on reality. So it's at least for me worth knowing that when it feels like its easier to let myself slip that I don't have to because I can get through painful things. It's ironic but it's been letting myself slip or compromising on what I've felt was right at the time for a quick fix or such that made everything actually much more difficult.