Romantic Fiction, Reality Shaping and The Work

[Anamarija]

All of this novels are about reciprocity in relationships and I'm just being seen as a giver and I'm not receiving much. I don't know how to inspire people to help me and to care about me more. I need some help with that. Was there some character like me in novels and she made it?

Since this last book is still fresh, I would recommend Aimee even though there are a lot of characters in previous books that could be good examples, too.
I admired her from the beginning because she is very young but intelligent. She was talented enough to know exactly what people need come out of their cocoon. And she did it to everyone, not just Konrad.
The way she showed affection to Konrad from the start was so sweet and beautiful. Who will not fall for that?
But, she wasn't a toy to play with. She knew when is the time to redraw herself. So, I think she was very good in internal and external consideration which I think could be helpful for you.

 

[Anthony]

I lag behind so I'm still reading fantastic The Fallen Angels Series by Mary Jo Putney. I'm a little embarrassed because I've read over 70 novels and I'm not autistic but I'm not really sure I have improved myself. I got recently a feedback that I'm a low-maintenance woman and I don't like that people don't take me seriously, or my emotional needs. Just an example what happened to me earlier this year. I had a flu and I went to doctor. He didn't want to give me a sick leave but he did to my friend who also had a flu. I had to go like that to work and do the shopping. In condition that I was with fever I sat on a bench close to my home and called my son to help me with bags. A construction worker started hitting on me and I thought he wants to help me because he noticed I'm sick. He said something that I don't need to be out on such weather and that I can come to his place bla bla. When I got home and was washing dishes, I recycled the conversation in my head when my fever went down, I realized he was thinking I was homeless and was actually inviting me to move in with him . My doctor told me some years ago I'm a remarkable person and since that he sends me to work when I'm sick. Lots of people told me that I have admirable character but nothing good comes out of it. For me, for my needs, for my care.
All of this novels are about reciprocity in relationships and I'm just being seen as a giver and I'm not receiving much. I don't know how to inspire people to help me and to care about me more. I need some help with that. Was there some character like me in novels and she made it?

Sophia from The Arrangement by Mary Balogh comes to mind, she starts out as being invisible to others and then grows into her own power and learns to assert herself, it's a great novel and very inspiring to see someone break out of a life long personality pattern. On the psychology side, what you've mentioned is most likely a reflection of how you treat yourself. For example, if you are invisible to yourself, not seeing, valuing, or listening to yourself, you might end up feeling invisible to others. This is not to discount that there might be people in your life that are purposefully using you or ignoring you, but if it's a repeating pattern over many relationships that you have with others, then looking at the relationship that you have with yourself is something that's needed, such as learning to give to yourself what you want from others, setting boundaries, prioritizing yourself at times, etc. If you're also caretaking (giving to get something) that's also something to examine. If you want to look into all of that, check out Inner Bonding by Margaret Paul.