Ailén said:
François said:
Laura said:
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François on Today at 11:05:53 PM said:
If I want to know who I am as individual of a nation it seems to me that the right way is to become acquainted with how foreigners (*) describe me otherwise it is a critical self-analysis and there is a credibility gap.
* of course the foreigner must be identified as a reliable source recognized by his peers
Soooooo French!
Laura,
I was thinking this was common sense, but if you answer that way, I am wrong.
And can you try to see why you were wrong? Not trying to nitpick at you, but to encourage you to really try to understand more about this "French mentality". It's hard when you are in it, but it's a good exercise! This is an important discussion for everyone, Francois, so don't feel bad!
I would say that it is certainly true that one needs to hear how foreigners describe us, how they see us, in order to gain some insight into our national characteristics; but that is only part of the story.
What struck me as so funny and so typically French was the add-on: "of course the foreigner must be identified as a reliable source recognized by his peers"
Hearing what others think of you/me as a culture can be accurate or grossly inaccurate whether the person is a "reliable source recognized by his peers" or not. I've heard some really bad assessments of the French made by supposedly reliable sources recognized by their peers; in some cases, it sounded almost like racism. Things like "cowardly surrender monkeys" that were being spouted by the previous U.S. Administration come to mind.
When you think about it, probably one of the better ways to understand one's own culture is to get immersed in another one and observe and compare in your own mind until you distill out some things. Notice what they do as opposed to what you do in specific situations. At that point, you can't really know which is better or just different, you can just know that there IS a difference.
I started out thinking that France MUST be superior to the U.S. simply because I was so disgusted with the U.S. warmongering and, at the time, France was refusing to get involved in taking down the Iraqi regime. I didn't see that as being "cowardly surrender monkeys" but rather as taking a reasonable, moral stance with courage in the face of enormous pressure from the immoral U.S.
So, naturally, I saw everything the French did as better and superior.
That's probably why I was so shocked to realize over time (and via personal experience) that the French really are xenophobic and irrational - despite all their claims to being intellectual and rational. There are so many things about France that are irrational that I've actually lost count.
I couldn't understand WHY this was, I just observed it. I wanted to know WHY? I've been thinking about it, speculating about it out loud to family and friends for a few years, and observing even more closely. How can it be that a nation of people can be so downright unfriendly and irritating and personally immoral (from my point of view) and, at the same time, have a "culture" and cuisine and certain features of their society that are so positive (again, my opinion based on observation)??? Why is it everyone wants to bash the French and, at the same time, spend their holidays here? That didn't make sense to me.
Of course, I do have a little bit of a similar background being raised in Florida. All the yankees (meaning Northerners) wanted to come to Florida for their vacations, but they spent the whole time there talking about how primitive the conditions were, how bad the mosquitoes were, how hot it was, how we didn't have all the good stores and shops they had up North, how we didn't have good restaurants or clubs etc. I was even in line at the supermarket one day and heard some New York woman whining on about that to her friend and I just told her "Lady, if you don't like it, the road that brought you here goes back to where you came from. Why don't you hit it?"
So, there I am, trying like crazy to maintain my illusions about France, all the while having experiences that tell me that the French are not what they present themselves to be, and then that whole "French Connection" thing happened. Not once, but twice.
That is what drove me to do some research, which is the next part of the process. Find out what other people have experienced and what they have observed and think and compare to what you have observed and experienced.
I guess you get the picture.
Anyway, I'm presently giving equal time to re-examining life in the U.S. from the point of view of a Lithuanian immigrant, formerly an anti-Communist dissident. He went to the U.S. the same way I went to France: thinking it was the greatest place on Earth. He is pretty bitter, but still, the facts he has dug up about the U.S. are far more damning than anything that has gone on in France. With a few adjustments, France really could be a beacon of liberte egalite and fraternite... the U.S. would have to be destroyed at its foundations to ever be a real democracy.