JGeropoulas
The Living Force
Psyche said:Carlise said:I really need to make extra efforts to remember myself as I go through daily life, as I'm obviously missing valuable opportunities for growth...
I had something interesting happening this last week related to this. I wrote down some observations of a co-worker. They were the pretty harsh truth and written down in a matter of fact and definitely non-rosy way. It was meant to be read only by me. Later that day, as I realized I was running late for a scheduled talk, I picked up my things and went in a hurry. During the talk I wanted to write down some notes and reached out for my paper notes... which were missing. Big shock! I left it in the same office where the co-worker was working. So the talk quickly ends and I rush back to the office to recover my notes which I could only have left on the desk among other piled up papers. It was not there, it was in my coat instead. Co-worker acted as if nothing happened so all seemed to be well. It was only the day afterwards that she told me she saw my notes and that she was the one who placed them in my coat. She said this quickly among other "facts of the day" and with no added emotion. I felt pretty bad about it and also acutely aware that things were not as they looked liked. She acted as if she had read nothing, but in order to recognize they were written by me, it meant that she definitely read it. I felt pretty bad because she read something she was not meant nor prepared to read.
The cognitive dissonance was such, she either chose to ignore the whole thing or just went into denial overdrive. Immediately after this incident she reported some serious dissociation issues like nothing. People reported having some serious conversations with her which she doesn't recall at all. Things which she will usually not say in her "waking" life. She doesn't remember what she said and from the reactions of others, it must have been the pretty bad truth because they didn't necessarily reacted amusingly to the whole thing. I feel in a sense responsible for this. Someone who was not prepared nor wanted to read the truth but did because I slipped it over due to lack of awareness in my part. I have spent all these days making concerted efforts to stay acutely aware of everything to see if it helps her recover her "sanity".
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Yes, becoming able to maintain awareness is obviously a long, arduous process, as exemplified in this anecdote included in a continuing education course I took on mindfulness last fall:
After ten years of apprenticeship, a student achieved the rank of Zen teacher. One rainy day, he
went to visit a famous Zen master in another city. When he entered the house, the master
greeted him with a question, "Did you leave your wooden clogs and umbrella on the porch?"
"Yes, master," he replied. "Tell me," the master said, "Did you place your umbrella to the left of
your shoes, or to the right?"
The visitor didn't know the answer. So he stayed with the master and studied Zen for another
ten years.