Thank you all for the super-duper packed session!
I think the answer might be what the C‘s said: “You are souls first.“
It might be that in some if not many of such cases what counts isn’t really if they can conquer such BIG programming in a lifetime, but if they gave their best nonetheless. And/or if they at least seriously tried to conquer that (for most, if not all people) almost insurmountable mountain.
Some time ago Ark wrote that (paraphrasing) "impossible just takes a little bit more time to achieve".
The most important thing regarding anything is the soul in us, as the C's indicated, OSIT. There are ways to "conquer" basically anything, and if the soul's had plans that the Matrix Control System and accompanying STS forces did their things in order to circumvent them, with access to limitless creativity source, coupled with fearlessness and association to the 'right' network, that is soul group, those things can and will be successfully dealt with. Of course, it won't be a piece of cake, but it can be done. Another thing is if the soul concluded that something is sort of not worth it in this lifetime, or if the life-path in a given incarnation deviated too much from the original plan for example, and then the soul decided to check out and leave at some point.
Regarding the mommy and/or daddy issues or programming, one possible way to deal with them, assuming there's an awareness that there's something within to deal with in the first place, and a will and determination/resolution to deal with it, might be using sort of an intermediary, an outside person to model internal motherly and/or fatherly figure upon her for the time being, that inner child becomes and stays detached from the old up until internal mother/father is not 'created' and solid enough to take up the role and finally integrates the child and the whole family in a healthy whole of the self or being.
In my case, Laura was such an outside person, and while the modeling of internal motherly figure was going on, the inner child was given enough space and detachment and security essential to a baby/child to express what he really felt and thought about certain things in my past regarding the biological mother without facing the 'certainty' of obliteration or annihilation or death as it was perceived. The internal mother modeling and solidifying, and inner child's facing and expressing those deeply buried feelings and thought patterns, worked in principle hand in hand one with another, where one step in one direction enabled a step in another and vice versa. At the end of the process, the inner child became unburdened of those ties and clamps that plagued him, while the inner mother became an integral part of the being or inner self ready to embrace the child in healthy inner community of the whole being, at which point the outside model was not needed anymore and 'released' from its role as there's everything needed already present within.
Was not an easy ordeal for sure, professional psychological help was most helpful when it came to actually expressing and verbalizing those inner child's suppressed feelings, but doable and extremely 'liberating' in the end.
FWIW.