mcb
The Living Force
That great urgency to "have the surgery" is something else I don't understand very well. For a lot of TSs it is like a compulsion. And yet it does work to have the surgery, or at least it can. It also takes a lot of preparation, and working on all the other issues that surgery can't resolve. Obsessing on having surgery and ignoring all else is not a good thing.Deedlet said:...
My transsexual friend wants to get the operation very bad- but apparently it costs around $18-20,000 for the entire operation + hormones. This is a lot of money- so he's started to save up and has been for many years. He recently told his mom that he wants to become female and they are going to therapy together. His dad doesn't know yet and probably wont for a very long time because of the acceptance issue. I can see how some people would turn to such deeds as theft or prostitution to get the money to pay for their operation because for some people the operation is VERY important. I don't think my friend will ever turn to such deeds but it's very sad that some people do.
There was an irony for me. I was not obsessed with the idea of surgery by any means, but during my transition I became aware that I might have been exposed to DES or something like it, and that I might be at risk for cancer as a result. I actually did speed up my transition thinking that I might be able to avoid any such problems by doing so. What didn't occur to me at the time was that I might already have the cancer that I was worried about. Speeding up my transition saved my life. The surgeon found a tumor during my initial consultation and it was malignant, but it was highly treatable. I learned mightily from that experience. Oh, these lessons.