I think you got something mixed up a bit here. There is a massive over-emphasis on group, in fact the whole identity politics shtick is based on a denial of individual merit. This then leads to the wrong assumption that every group should be represented equally (equality of outcome) AND that it's only racism that explains differences in group outcomes.
What we're really dealing with is two unhealthy extremes. On one end, non-white immigrant groups in white countries are strongly encouraged to identify with their race and culture; to take extreme pride in that identity; and to ascribe any shortcomings in group performance to oppression by white majorities. On the other hand, whites are essentially prohibited from identifying with white heritage (at least in any positive way), while being indoctrinated to be full of guilt for the actions of their ancestors (or 'their' ancestors, as the children of Polish immigrants who arrived in the 1990s are told to be just as guilty about slavery and Jim Crow as those descended from the Southern aristocracy).
There's a healthy balance in the middle that is quite conspicuously discouraged by the elite. One should take a degree of pride in one's people, while
also recognizing that one's people are imperfect, and
also acknowledging the positive attributes of other groups (and for that matter, the negative attributes). In other words, one does not need to indulge in racial supremacism, or (to coin a term) racial inferiorism.
It's rather similar to a healthy attitude towards one's family and direct familial lineage. A healthy relationship is one where you love your family, take pride in their achievements, and acknowledge their imperfections. I'm grateful to my parents, grandparents, and on down the line for everything they did to make my life possible, and I seek to honour their sacrifices and achievements by living up to their examples. I naturally love my family more than I love other people's families; that doesn't at all mean that I want to murder other people's families, or that I think my family is the best family of all and should rule over and dominate every other family. It's simply my family, and I love them because they're my family, and that's that.
But note that "individual merit" is a much broader concept than "IQ". That is to say, I think we don't really need IQ distribution much to explain inequality of outcome when comparing groups, because there are tons of other factors involved, such as culture (wasn't there some study showing that some black groups in the US that are not African-American actually do pretty well?), conscientiousness, family situation (both parents present or not) and so on. For me, this whole black vs. white IQ thing is a side issue and designed to trap people who are rightfully fed up with left-globalist nonsense into obsessing about race, ironically just as the crazy-left does.
Of course there's more to group differences than IQ, and of course there's more to differences in IQ (and other traits) than raw biology. Nature/nurture is a false dichotomy and humans are complex animals. I don't think
@PaleFace 's point was that IQ is the sole trait of relevance, but rather that group-level differences are quite real.
In my opinion, widespread acknowledgement and acceptance of these differences and their consequences would enable society to move forward in a far more harmonious fashion, in which we could stop obsessing about race and sex and every other immutable characteristic. As always, acceptance of truth leads to harmonization with universe; denying truth and embracing lies generates chaos. So it shouldn't be surprising that TPTB have put so much emphasis on demanding that everyone believe in the absolute equality of all groups.