I think that if solarmind is serious about learning why she has not been accepted to the private board, all she has to do is read her own posts and the replies to them. The replies would show her many things, as well as reading her comments to see how disrespectful, condescending and deflecting they are. Sounds like a spoilt child. But, in order to do that, one needs to really be looking at doing the Work in order to change oneself. It's hard to say if solarmind really wants that.If you have any problems and you want help, open a thread, ask for help, and see the responses from the forum members, think about them. They will give you just a better inside view of the problem, different perspectives on the same subject and maybe you will find a solution.
There are a lot of people who have ulterior motives for wanting to join the private board. That's why people are not just automatically admitted to it. That's why we take a while to get to know people better as well as we can here on the forum. As we've said before in many places here on the forum, our members' safety is very important to us. That will never change no matter how mad some people get for not being admitted because they want it to be so.