Yes, or maybe just one layer of the onion, but it's a good start. You would next need to try to see exactly what self-importance is in you case, and how it manifests. What are the main triggers, etc. Otherwise, it may stay a just a concept in your mind.
Impression Management is the term that came to me as I thought about my response to what was being shown.
@Jones, I understand that people won't/shouldn't believe me, and that only my actions can evidence the impact of this experience.
I don't see the benefit of arguing, or trying to defend my "character". That will prevent me from taking action.
During the times that I've been active, I have asked for a mirror on the most critical aspects of life that I was struggling with. Primarily issues to do with making the work practical, applying the principles in my relationships and in my career. I have grown from the feedback provided and do try in earnest.
This revelation, my colossal self importance, is the most revolutionary realization so far. I have been aware of my self-importance, but only acknowledged it in a "limited hangout" kind of way. Like "you know, everyone feels self-important to some degree"; or putting something out there that is objectionable, but not reprehensible. In my case, it is a defining principal feature. I have given many hours of thought to how this manifests and I'm barely scratching the surface. I have been reviewing my life and can see how all the major crises I've experienced are rooted in my false self- concept and its rabid defense. I've lost $15/hr and 150k/year opportunities because of it, as one example.
The crisis that I'm in now is because of that "self-esteem". That is my sacred cow. That is a place I've hidden away and made untouchable. Impression management has gone hand in hand with that. Being characteristically calm has also served that. The way I use language serves it as well. Everything serves it. If I accept the most reprehensible possibility as really and truly applying to me, it gives me very little room to squirm out of the lesson.
I want to get at what is essential in me. I'm engaging in these threads as a step, in perhaps a lifelong process of exorcising my self-focus.
I know there's a place in me that can receive light. I know there's an aspect that wants to give and serve. I want to free that side from the influence of the other.
I was being selfish when I PMd Laura in May. I wasn't being consciously and willfully malicious. I wasn't calculating, plotting, or scheming to set the stage to ask the FOTCM for money. At that point I was flush with cash, with lucrative prospects looming. In what I wrote, there are seeds of truth and a sincere attempt to express something real, entangled in all the rest of it.
I did subsequently ask for money this week, when I was dealing with the financial mess I created. Additionally, I was demanding in pushing for a response to the PM. I was panicking, and acted selfishly again. I tried to justify this when called out for it. I would've been taking from the group for my own needs, both financially and emotionally/energetically. It doesn't help me to deny that.
Again, I was not consciously being malicious, or trying to set up a long con. What I'm accepting and acknowledging is that the RESULTS were the same as though I had set out intentionally to do harm.
Beyond that, if there is something dark and malevolent seething under the surface or hiding at my core --- and it's inspiring my association with QFG --- I don't want to be blind to it. I would like it revealed, and if I am not showing sincerity in fighting it, then the only remedy is to be banned or voluntarily cease association.
I have faced many crises in the last 10 years and I didn't ask the group for money (my insufficiencies manifested in many other ways in daily living). I have sought to contribute funds when I could do so regularly. Whenever I came into means to give to an expressed need, I did so. It's important to me as an expression of gratitude. I won't claim that it is altruistic, or not contaminated with my own self-importance, but I think it reflects an aspect that does want to give from the heart.
I take for granted that this particular aspect of me, this ingrained self importance, is the tip of the iceberg. I also recognize that this intervention is not a "one and done" and that the only path forward is to focus on serving others instead of protecting, projecting and feeding my unreal self-concept. I accept that what I DO/fail to do is what puts me in control of my progress.
I also take for granted that I'm in a cycle that I can only break with the help of a network who can see clearly and care enough to show me what is real.
I am taking this seriously. I owe it to my family. It's a matter of my soul.