Help with finding a girlfriend

[loreta]

If your priority is to meet a woman who likes to drink, eat and enjoys sex I think the best place to go is a bar. In any case, if you're looking for this kind of person precisely at this complicated time in your life, you're going to complicate it a thousand times over. Bars, discotheques, pubs, there's bound to be plenty of this kind of woman. No need to pay, and you don't have the money for that, for a dating agency.

Of course, sex is good, when there's respect and love. And eating is fantastic, especially with friends or even alone. Personally, I think drinking in moderation is ok. Not for me, by the way. I hate alcohol.

I don't think members of this forum come with the intention of meeting lovers, not at all. If that's what you think, then I think you have the wrong idea about this forum.

 

[GaëlYann]

You find an activity to meet people. Sorry for the bad translation.

 

[rs]

I am looking for advice on finding ways to find a girlfriend.

My situation is currently rather bleak, as I lost my driver's license over a year ago, recently was turned down from my studies, and have no income. But I am in the process of getting my license back in about 6 months, and will begin studying on Mars 18 next year, and will continue to search for a job until my studies begin. I am also looking to move away from my hometown to Stockholm.

Do you have general advice?
Ways to find a good date?
Do you know any better, free and reliable dating website that people use?

I am looking for someone that likes sex, food and drinking. She should have a dominating but kind personality. A girl with lively and energetic charisma. Preferably she should have a driver's license and like to step on the gas. Title doesn’t matter, but I really would like to join the military or navy someday, so perhaps she would preferably have such a job or other title with responsibilities, perhaps security related or police.

Thanks for reading.

I met the most amazing woman and married her - after I stopped looking…

 

[GaëlYann]

Of course, sex is good, when there's respect and love. And eating is fantastic, especially with friends or even alone. Personally, I think drinking in moderation is ok. Not for me, by the way. I hate alcohol.

If you go to a restaurant alone, chances are you will be mistaken for a food critic and you can expect better service.

 

[Alejo]

I think you should reach out to a therapist for the advice.

I second this. I strongly suggest you reach out to someone.

 

[Chu]

I second this. I strongly suggest you reach out to someone.

Me too. From your descriptions, it sounds like you need some help to get yourself into a better position in life. First things first.

 

[loreta]

If you go to a restaurant alone, chances are you will be mistaken for a food critic and you can expect better service.

Maybe, or maybe not.

 

[gottathink]

. I Hope this describes better what I am looking for

The purpose of describing her is for yourself to think about it’s not to be an advertisement.
The important part is to ask yourself what you need to be like to attract a person like that. Have a think about this. Getting some counselling can help you.

 

[mugatea]

I am looking for advice on finding ways to find a girlfriend.

My situation is currently rather bleak, as I lost my driver's license over a year ago, recently was turned down from my studies, and have no income. But I am in the process of getting my license back in about 6 months, and will begin studying on Mars 18 next year, and will continue to search for a job until my studies begin. I am also looking to move away from my hometown to Stockholm.

Do you have general advice?
Ways to find a good date?
Do you know any better, free and reliable dating website that people use?

I am looking for someone that likes sex, food and drinking. She should have a dominating but kind personality. A girl with lively and energetic charisma. Preferably she should have a driver's license and like to step on the gas. Title doesn’t matter, but I really would like to join the military or navy someday, so perhaps she would preferably have such a job or other title with responsibilities, perhaps security related or police.

Thanks for reading.

How good is your chat with the girls? Also, why would you want to join the military at this time?

 

[Revolucionar]

This is baked noodles if I ever saw one.

 

[Search]

I will tell you mine observation.

When I drink alcohol, my sex desire multiplies 10-20 times. During and after drinking.

It is has something to do with chacras of the human body, the energy goes down.

I don't know how it works on you, but a lot of guys also told me that they have the same.

As a view from a side, I see that you looking for perfect woman for perfect sex.
Excuse me if I rude here, but I want to help you, to "refresh" your mind.

Female and male bodies are different.
It has to be taken into account.
Even sex, we enjoy differently.

About girls.
It's easier to find a good girl in places where a healthy lifestyle is promoted. Gyms, sports, alcohol-free cafes and so on. Women are more predisposed to such places and guys there.
IMO.

 

[Quadriad]

As someone who has struggled with depression and anger issues in the past, I am well aware of the worldviews that I have experienced accompany the "bleakness" that the poster spoke about, and I just hoped to once again emphasise that a man in the "bleakness" mode is not healthy relationship material (and the vast majority of quality partners will sense this and keep themselves well away), and that sex is probably not even part of the solution to the immediate problem, and, with a wrong partner (who is increasingly likely to be attracted at such times, if anyone shows up at all) may, in fact, aggravate the problem by creating strong attachment to another person with serious emotional issues of their own. Good luck dealing with double the MH problems then!

Again, all Cassfolk commenting, please show unambiguous compassion to our friend, these issues are serious, and no joking matter at all.

 

[Alejo]

Again, all Cassfolk commenting, please show unambiguous compassion to our friend, these issues are serious, and no joking matter at all.

Not at all, which is why I think he should seek some counseling and support. There's definitely a lot going on and it should be addressed, for his own well being.

A relationship that ticks all the boxes would only serve to temporarily mask the underlying issues and risk worsening them because of the emotional intensity of a romantic relationship.

 

[Approaching Infinity]

Thanks for one of the more serious replies so far. I will try to describe my 'perfect woman'. She should be between 25-35, white skin, blue eyes, in good health. And seriously, good looking. The value merit would be that she isn't religious or follow any odd teachings. UFO/alien interest like myself is fine. Cleans up after herself and keeps a good hygiene. I would like to have a dominant, kind, and reflective woman. Motherly in her relationship. She should fit my taste for things, for example, I prefer leather sofas so should she, I can listen to rap music, she should be capable of hearing it, and I should in retrospect be able to listen and like the things she is likes when riding in a car for example. I would not be in a relationship with someone who doesn't fit my profile. Since I am somewhat at times a person who may get ideas and find myself in odd situations, my perfect woman could be a woman, who doesn't fear at all to correct me when I am getting 'psychotic'. So, if she wanted to, she could really use physical corrections, like grabbing me if I am about to do something which I myself don't quite understand what I am doing at those situations. This is something that should work, because if that doesn't work then I guess there is no point in continuing a relationship. Sexually, it's important that that works. I would not feel offended if I got a whip pushed down my throat. I Hope this describes better what I am looking for.

Is one of the qualities you like her to have standards?

Given that you have a very particular list of qualities you would like in a high-quality woman, I am curious as to what qualities you think her ideal man would have? Maybe try making a list of the kind of man you imagine such a woman would want. Then, ask yourself if your list is realistic or not. If it isn't, revise your list to be more realistic. Then, compare those qualities to your own. If you don't match up to those qualities, see which ones you can work on.

 

[A Jay]

Is one of the qualities you like her to have standards?

A good question.

Given that you have a very particular list of qualities you would like in a high-quality woman, I am curious as to what qualities you think her ideal man would have? Maybe try making a list of the kind of man you imagine such a woman would want. Then, ask yourself if your list is realistic or not. If it isn't, revise your list to be more realistic. Then, compare those qualities to your own. If you don't match up to those qualities, see which ones you can work on.

I'm also curious about what you think she would be looking for in a man and how her list of preferred qualities would compare to a list of your own personal qualities.