I found a mini lecture of Jordans that I transcribed over a year ago, and sent to someone I was assisting.
I have been seeing that most of the Ancestral Healing issues that I am being asked about recently, are Father issues.
Using this advice from JP has helped "turn around" the focus for several people.
Good hearted people who were unable to release strong "attachments" and long held identifications of anger and resentment towards their fathers, even though those men were long gone dead.
"You have an endless potential.
That potential reveals itself in the re-construction of your being.
That’s the rescuing of your Father from the belly of the beast.
You make yourself into the full manifestation of your ancestral possibility.
That is within your grasp.
I think that is true metaphysically.
I think it’s true psychologically.
I think it’s true biologically.
The way you do that is by voluntarily confronting the suffering and malevolence that is a consequence of limited being.
That way, you get to have your cake and eat it, too: you have all the possibilities that limitation in combination with potential opens up for you, and you have the means of coping with it.
Then you think, “is that just naive?” The answer to that is, “no, actually; it’s not naive.”
What you see in the clinical literature is that people who turn around and confront the things that have terrified them, even if they have post-traumatic stress disorder, even if they have been really hurt—and by true malevolence, often.
Not just suffering, but true betrayal and evil.
They get better.
That’s a fact, and it doesn’t seem to be a limited fact.
There are a couple of interesting things about that.
The first is that, if you turn around and confront what is terrifying you, it gets smaller, and you get bigger. There doesn’t seem to be a real limit to that.
That is a psychological truth.
So, that is where you find meaning, and the meaning in your life that sustains you through the pain of the limitation."
Dr.Jordan B Peterson
