Re: Ketogenic Diet - Path To Transformation?
Asking is done through actions and not just through words. So the fact that she's doing the diet, reading the books, and even attending conferences is quite a lot of evidence that she is sincerely asking (I think). The problem is in balance. If the situation is not balanced, then you are doing all the work to "teach" her, and, as in the past examples, he or she is not really learning but simply feeding off of your efforts and attention. In this case your family member is balancing the equation by actually doing something with what you're offering.
Here's the Cassiopedia entry on "Giving All to Those Who Ask"
Str!ke said:Laura said:clerck de bonk said:I understand You to a T and it is important to understand what exactly asking is.
It reminds me of the gal who once asked me to boil down everything I had learned in over 40 years to 25 words or less and after a minute or two I knew the answer: "If you think there is a free lunch in the universe, YOU are lunch."
They all want stuff for free or with little effort like your guy using the paramoralistic "you should be able to explain it "in a nutshell" if you understand it well" nonsense. Life isn't black and white and if complex topics could really be "explained in a nutshell", then everyone would have Ph.D.s for free and they would be worth nothing.
I'd like to ask (if possible, because it's not really on topic, though was mentioned in the page before), regarding 'truly asking' about diet.(I do have read the thread)
Basically, a family member has been asking about Ketogenic Diet and I've shared (articles,books,experiences). She does puts his own efforts like doing the diet, reading, going to conferences, and shares it too.
Also she helps in other aspects i.e. researching organic meat providers for both.
This interaction has been like this for a year.
The thing is, she is average in english, so I try to help in explaining/traducing some terms.
Question is:
Is this interaction truly asking or am I wishfully thinking that I'm helping ?(an STS interaction of someone being prey and other predator?) Is it more of an STO interaction (of helping each other, both giving equal input)?
Asking is done through actions and not just through words. So the fact that she's doing the diet, reading the books, and even attending conferences is quite a lot of evidence that she is sincerely asking (I think). The problem is in balance. If the situation is not balanced, then you are doing all the work to "teach" her, and, as in the past examples, he or she is not really learning but simply feeding off of your efforts and attention. In this case your family member is balancing the equation by actually doing something with what you're offering.
Here's the Cassiopedia entry on "Giving All to Those Who Ask"