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Hi all, after reading the thread of the book "when the body says no" Gabor Mate, start a search for some themes that help me understand a little more about the connection between body and stress; book Gabor Mate I have not read since the Spanish version is discontinued by the distributor in bookstores, so I found a little book by author Alice Miller, whose title in Spanish is "The body never lies", I would like to share some excerpts that I find very important points:
The author touches a sensitive point which is the fourth commandment "Honor thy father and thy mother" this is what the author says about it:
[quote author=Alice Miller El cuerpo nunca miente]
Experience has taught me that my body is the source of all vital information that opened the way to a better autonomy and self-awareness. only when I admitted the emotions that so long had locked in my body and I could feel them I was gradually freeing my past. The real feelings can not be forced. They are there and always arise for some reason, although this can remain hidden from our perception. I can not make me love my parents, even to respect when my body refuses to do so for reasons the same well known, however, when I try to fulfill the fourth commandment get stressed me, as I do whenever I demand to me same impossible. Under this stress I have lived almost all my life. Try to create me good feelings and try to ignore the bad to live with moral and value system that I had actually accepted, to be loved as a daughter. But do not turn and finally had to admit that he could not force a love that was not there.
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I think the picture may be even more disastrous, if we add the topic of psychopathy, coupled with the issue of organic Portales, being handled by hyperdimensional beings to drain energy.
Then he says:
[quote author=Alice Miller El cuerpo nunca miente]
You need to know that forced love can be a source of much pain. Who, since childhood, have received their parents want love without a commandment tells you to. Love can not come to fulfill a commandment.
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The love of parents for their children, even begins even in utero, studies of how emotions affect the mother to the fetus somehow, with this in mind, the love of a mother for a child is natural, even instinctive, sometimes a situation that seems unimportant can make for life to a child.
Some people did not have parents who expressed their love when they needed her affection, understanding, attention, affection, the causes can be several, I think with the help of a professional therapist (not dogmatized with religion.moral) you can accept these emotions and try to live a full life.
Peer pressure is very strong, if someone speaks ill of their parents, once it is identified as a person who judges, criticizes, in short it is classified as a bad person, but only the person who lived these experiences really knows hell it's your life.
There are also parents who accept and apologize to your children for the harm they did, of course that the relationship could become cordial, kind, loving. I think when the damage has been great is best to put away. Many parents do not know a way to help their children simply because they did not they were given, this is where an asset enters, communication, if parents are really understanding the damage they caused, dialogarlo peacefully with their children, help restore the bond of trust and together work.
Throughout this theme each case is unique and decisions are based on the circumstances in each particular case are living.
if someone is going through a similar situation or a family member or friend, this book can help you
