I am about 50% through the "7 Nights.." book and can share some thoughts.
Entwined between the erotic expressions of how both characters are feeling, there are moments of healthy behaviours and human decency of respect for each other's feelings. We are beings inhabiting a 3D body with certain capacities and given access to a creative life force via the Sexual center. "Planting the seed" is a way for a male to express that force leading to the creation of new life. Ultimately every consciousness unit is trying to create something by exercising their free will and accessing ever-powerful creative forces by the strength of their being. So, as a 3D denizen, we have been tasked to handle this powerful creative force which can be expressed in different ways. There is the most respectful way which calls for the process of courting, gentle caresses, foreplay, control of impulses, and respecting the free will of your partner. There is the disrespectful way expressed as forced sex, quickies, rapes, body mutilations, and extreme kinky acts with help of physical objects. And, then again you have the historical accounts of mass rapes being done by invading armies over the conquered peoples explained away as spreading the gene.
A key lesson of 3D is to be able to rise to the challenge of handling the powerful and creative sexual force appropriately by our will power. If we ever get to 4D, then this shall be considered a dress rehearsal, a training ground of sorts to grow ourselves enough to be able to handle the more powerful creative forces accessible at 4D with greater lures and potential for misuse. And I stated that we must learn to handle it, not oppose or ignore it. That means, living through such feelings of heightened arousal and understanding the various pulls it has on our bodies, taking stock of our feelings, and expressing them properly to the right partner. There is a lot to be learned about ourselves by exploring those buried emotions in our bodies - one can only learn to control something by experiencing it first hand and repeating the experience until learned. No one learned to ride a bicycle (cue controlling the motion of moving object) without falling the first time and then ignoring or stopping to ride it any further.
The book also reminded me of a movie by Alfred Hitchcock, Marnie(1964) which I happened to watch with my wife not so long ago. We were thoroughly impressed by how the content of the subject matter and how it has been explored. I'd recommend everyone watch this movie too to broaden your view on what's being explored in these books.
Without revealing too much, the movie depicts how a strong male takes it upon himself to guide his lady love through a healing process. He begins by cornering and forcing her to marry him (to save her from being incarcerated of theft) and then tries to come onto her in a fashion similar to the book but holds back upon realising the extent of her psychological damage. She had been touched inappropriately by her mother's lover during a night full of lightning and storms which left a deep mental scar and fear of opening herself to men. The same fear of being vulnerable made her character deceitful where she would steal funds from corporate safe boxes by gaining access to the keys via her lady charms - a way of achieving victory over men by manipulation and playing on their sexual advances. The male character is played by Sean Connery and he does a good job of it. The sheer manly essence he exudes by the way he holds his lady love (might at times appear as strong man-handling) combined with copious amounts of chivalry and a "thinking with the hammer" approach to confront the issue head-on eventually heals the lady. The final embrace in the climax scene where she asks him to take her home is a profound moment and depicted well. It's an apt visual depiction of a fair maiden having finally found her knight and giving herself up soul and body.
So, in essence, the take-home message to all men is to understand the powerful creative force that exists within you - learn to handle it well and make your lady proud of you and herself. Learn to hold back when called for but also, be firm and do not hesitate to thrust ahead when required, pun intended :). Always maintain control, do not oppose or ignore and be open to sharing your darkest secrets with the right lady.
And the message for women would be to not be afraid of exploring all aspects of yourself, don't be afraid of being vulnerable in the arms of the right man. You won't lose yourself but collectively you both may discover something new and exciting about yourselves. Every experience is an opportunity to learn and all existence is just a big school.
Entwined between the erotic expressions of how both characters are feeling, there are moments of healthy behaviours and human decency of respect for each other's feelings. We are beings inhabiting a 3D body with certain capacities and given access to a creative life force via the Sexual center. "Planting the seed" is a way for a male to express that force leading to the creation of new life. Ultimately every consciousness unit is trying to create something by exercising their free will and accessing ever-powerful creative forces by the strength of their being. So, as a 3D denizen, we have been tasked to handle this powerful creative force which can be expressed in different ways. There is the most respectful way which calls for the process of courting, gentle caresses, foreplay, control of impulses, and respecting the free will of your partner. There is the disrespectful way expressed as forced sex, quickies, rapes, body mutilations, and extreme kinky acts with help of physical objects. And, then again you have the historical accounts of mass rapes being done by invading armies over the conquered peoples explained away as spreading the gene.
A key lesson of 3D is to be able to rise to the challenge of handling the powerful and creative sexual force appropriately by our will power. If we ever get to 4D, then this shall be considered a dress rehearsal, a training ground of sorts to grow ourselves enough to be able to handle the more powerful creative forces accessible at 4D with greater lures and potential for misuse. And I stated that we must learn to handle it, not oppose or ignore it. That means, living through such feelings of heightened arousal and understanding the various pulls it has on our bodies, taking stock of our feelings, and expressing them properly to the right partner. There is a lot to be learned about ourselves by exploring those buried emotions in our bodies - one can only learn to control something by experiencing it first hand and repeating the experience until learned. No one learned to ride a bicycle (cue controlling the motion of moving object) without falling the first time and then ignoring or stopping to ride it any further.
The book also reminded me of a movie by Alfred Hitchcock, Marnie(1964) which I happened to watch with my wife not so long ago. We were thoroughly impressed by how the content of the subject matter and how it has been explored. I'd recommend everyone watch this movie too to broaden your view on what's being explored in these books.
So, in essence, the take-home message to all men is to understand the powerful creative force that exists within you - learn to handle it well and make your lady proud of you and herself. Learn to hold back when called for but also, be firm and do not hesitate to thrust ahead when required, pun intended :). Always maintain control, do not oppose or ignore and be open to sharing your darkest secrets with the right lady.
And the message for women would be to not be afraid of exploring all aspects of yourself, don't be afraid of being vulnerable in the arms of the right man. You won't lose yourself but collectively you both may discover something new and exciting about yourselves. Every experience is an opportunity to learn and all existence is just a big school.
