Courting Julia
I have avoided this genre although I remember reading my mother’s historical fiction novels (some of them with a romance theme) when I was a teen. I also remember poo-pooing the romance part, not letting the emotional part touch me. Like others have said, over the years I have come to erroneously regard relationships and romance on our planet as just “STS feeding” and have not given these themes much thought.
Part of the fun is to try and piece together the characters and how they relate to each other, although it can be confusing at first as
mkrnhr expressed. I was also touched by the wedding proposal
as was whitecoast . I have several thoughts on these readings that I can break down into 4 parts:
1. Beauty of Literature: over the past weeks I have been thinking how can I practically manifest beauty in my life and gardening is the first that came to mind, however it is a bit impractical now that Autumn is approaching; music is another, especially some of the choral music recommended; taking part in the beauty of physical exercise is also an option along with spending time enjoying the nature. However, I forgot my penchant for literature, which I used to love as a young boy and enjoyed immensely through high school and my first year of university. Then this thread came along and I read Courting Julia. Just the story it portrays, the way the words are crafted, and the simple beauty of the dialog and character development was touching. This is a way to access emotions, and during this time of hyperkinetic sensate, this is just the thing that is needed for me right now. 20+ years straight of academic reading can only go so far, and now it is time for something beautiful.
2. Specific dialog: when reading this, and being in a kind of “suggestive/open” state, for lack of a better word, when wise words are used by the characters, the reader is more open to the positive emotional effect – as was mentioned
by Keit , when Malcolm states:
"Love," Malcolm said and then paused to swallow- twice. "Love is wanting to be with someone all the time. It is accepting the other person with all good qualities and bad and not wanting to change any of them. It is wanting to give affection and approval and comfort and everything that is oneself, demanding nothing in return. It is- love is very difficult, Julia. It is an ideal, rarely achieved in reality because we are all selfish and imperfect beings. It is a dream, a goal, something to be aimed for."
"So being in love is not just the good feeling one gets when looking at or thinking of someone special" she said.
"Perhaps being in love is, Julia" Malcolm said. "But loving is something different"
It seems to me, despite reading quite a bit about love and so forth, the dialog in the story concerning unconditional love actually touched my emotions, when before it was all intellectual.
3. Character development as a reflection of one’s own character: in good literature the author succeeds in developing the characters in such a way, that the reader looks for similar characteristics and puts oneself into the character’s shoes – something we have understood that literature does: develops empathy. I can’t find the thread, but in the past there have been exhortations on the Forum to read good wholesome literature as part of one’s personal growth. In this story, I watched Frederick, the charming rake, and his womanizing behaviour, and my first thought “I wouldn’t want to be like that”, but in that open/suggestive state I realized I have those rake characteristics. There was an emotional effect: yuck, I have done that, I have flirted and succumbed to the predatory exploitative behaviour just like Frederick, and that’s not the man I want to be!
With the characters you can see how some of them talk too much and putting up masks as
Mari pointed out and this is a clear depiction of specific areas where the character could work on the self. Then immediately the reader (me) begins to think of personal behaviors that can be worked on.
4. Sexual center: in my own life has been somewhat of an abnormal sexual suppression (as mentioned above with my attitude towards STS feeding relationships) as well as an impulsive sexual expression. To see a fairly decent example of sexuality is one thing this book brings forth, but more profound is the emotional-sexual center opening via the intimate parts of the book. Hard to explain, as the scenes were nothing titillating or anything, but it was like I could tap into some deeper metaphorical meaning. I found that during and after reading this book, I was more sensitive to things, and actually felt tears coming, and could even cry somewhat: this is something that has been missing from my life.
I am looking forward to reading more of these books, as I think they help in not only manifesting beauty during this time of amplified hyperkinetic sensate, but also providing the emotional motivator to keep working through one’s own personal development and character issues.