The rest of your post is spot on, but I just wanted to address this particular issue.Just think of Johnny Depp today. There were disturbing revelations about him that came out recently during his legal action (or media circus!) against, his former wife, Amber Heard.
My wife has been following this case closely and has been keeping me informed. Long story short, Amber Heard is a golddigging psychopath who has been working on Johnny since she met him. The fact of the matter is that she is the abuser (she cut off Johnny's finger, put out cigarettes on his face, threw stuff at him and outright beat him up) and Johnny the victim. Unfortunately, people believe her implicitly because she's a woman. Just have a look at some of her testimony and public appearances with regards to the case and you can clearly see that she's as fake as they come. Really sick and pathetic woman. There's a lot of materaial on YouTube that goes into this with recordings of conversations and altercations between the two, where it's very clear which of them is the abuser. I thought about making a dedicated post or thread about this, but I don't have that much time to give a thorough explication of all the details. If anyone's interested, though, Amber Heard is a great case study in psychopathy, in my opinion.