You can ago along with their version, but at the same time make your free will respected too. You respect their opinion AND they respect yours. For example respond to your daughter: yes I'm vitamins addict, it's my personal life and please respect this, as I respect some aspects of your life. I will order vitamins because I need it. If YOU don't need it, don't take it and don't prevent ME from taking it"
Respecting the free will of others doesn't mean be submitted to others.
Want to give what just happened with my brother, who is +1y old than me and also working in Luxembourg, in a bank (so "cliché"). I gave a phone call just to take news. All is going well on his side, good news. We talked about his 3 children (21, 18 and 15) who were all there, about what he did the w-e, talked about how it's going on at his job then talking about my job/company. He also asked back if all is ok on my side. During this small dialog i told him that I spent +/- 10 days deeply searching on the actual subject, minimizing my work for the company, but no details at all, just saying that. At the end i just told him that if he has some questions, then he just have to ask, and told him that I decided not to argue anymore about this "subject". He answered that (+/- traduced in english) "yeah, we are not on the same wave lenght, but it's like that", i just answered "yup", and forced myself to avoid any comment (even if i was tempted to tell him to well follow the actuality in France -
btw I think it's there that it's going to detonate, like the first stone falling and the rest collapsing (or a part of at least) ), then the usuall good evening, and also the pleasure to feel a kind of much affection in his voice, and for sure, there was probablyy some kind of "astonishment" on his side, due to the fact that I did not at all talked about the virus, he was telling me to take care, "bonne soirée", etc ... he's usually gentle but he knows that he has very hard to express his sentiments, and here I felt he really did it, in his voice, ... can't explain it more than saying that but difficult to explain a feeling you know.
When I think twice about, it's finally the best way to act and i'm much proud of having succeeded to control myself to say more. This is unusual to me, I'm used (or they are used) to hear or read me about various subject and kinda provoking them, and the link between us never cut, it's strong, and at least I always tried not to go too further, and until now, this method i would not recommend (see what I just wrote at the begining of this paragraph) is working, our link is even strengthening, even more in this actual mayem we all live.
At least, my 2 brothers and my mother are fully for the Vitamine C. This brother (the one I phoned today) is particularly much taking care about his health, and during the past years he accepted a few of my "ideas", like the colloidal silver i produce for him (got the stuff to), he bought a juice extractor, he's on Vitamine C, he did not take his "tetanos vaccine rappel" and I think he got now a lof of doubts about vaccines. What is cool is that he's taking a lot of care about what he daily eat (and his children), and he's used to give me some good things to buy, where to buy them and he seems happy when I come to his house the sunday to lunch with him and his children + sometimes my mother.
At least, it's a good situation, it could be better but it's a good one, we have a strong relation, me particulary with this brother who is +1y old than me (the other i+4). I know that whathever i do or say, he'll probably be upset at some times, but he'll be there if I would need it, it's and
unbreakable link, and I think (hope also) that I re-inforced it a lot today, and writing this is bringing me tears ... ah ! still not able to control my emotions visibly ;)
@cassandra : First, be strong, be patient, re-read (again)
the post that Ennio made in this thread. Keep in mind the 4 qualities you have to try to maintain :
control, discipline, forbearance, timing (+ the will that ponders your mental and emotional strenght). I would even say :
be cunning like the fox, its for good purposes !
One idea : first, keep well in mind the advise of Nature, if you are not anymore respected you'll be even more "attacked" by them later on (unfortunatley). Just remain kind and ask to be kind to you in return, polite, it's the minimum.
Then try to put yourself at their place, think about terrorized persons who need to be reassured and not to be convinced that there's a big plan threathening all of us from the upper level of the STS side, they are already at the maximum of what their emotional state is able to support. When you understand this, when you can place yourself in their "mind/emotions", you can see a scared children who need reconfort, who need to talk, who need to express what is burning in him. Try to get them separately, not all at the same time, you can even think it like a game, plant your grains smartly, methodically, indirectly, be patient, let the seeds grow.
I'm not sure it would work, but I doubt you would get back any bad backfire to try it, on the contrary.
At least, this was my 2 cents advise (even if I do not feel the right person to give any advise :) )
and why am I 9 days late to read most acute session so far? Oh I guess beacause all this fresh turmoil is taking even more time and energy, and it just a reality warmup...
No biggie,
