Anart,
I hope we can put this to rest soon. It is possible that what I have written is not interpreted as I would wish it was and so I will reread. As for not sharing my experiences and wanting to speak privately with Laura, this has more to do with my position and related risks and nothing to do with not wanting to discuss with you or any other Member. I was simply asking to contact Laura to exchange some information. I was not asking this request because I thought myself to be special or otherwise and so I naturally took offense to the following excerpt you sent me:
My request was made to Laura and she was perfectly capable of declining my request or never answering my email, I have no problem at all with that. I also realize that many people have had bizarre experiences, that I am not the only one and that I am not special in the least in that regard, point taken. :D
As for the above excerpt, I'm not sure how you wanted me to take this. Obviously you intended to make a point unless you are in the habit of copy pasting excerpts at will for no apparent reason....Perhaps your choice of text combined with your lack of knowledge about me could explain why I became defense...food for thought :)
I hope we can put this to rest soon. It is possible that what I have written is not interpreted as I would wish it was and so I will reread. As for not sharing my experiences and wanting to speak privately with Laura, this has more to do with my position and related risks and nothing to do with not wanting to discuss with you or any other Member. I was simply asking to contact Laura to exchange some information. I was not asking this request because I thought myself to be special or otherwise and so I naturally took offense to the following excerpt you sent me:
Mme Jeanne de Salzmann said:You will see that in life you receive exactly what you give. Your life is the mirror of what you are. It is in your image. You are
passive, blind, demanding. You take all, you accept all, without feeling any obligation. Your attitude toward the world and toward
life is the attitude of one who has the right to make demands and to take, who has no need to pay or to earn. You believe that all things
are your due, simply because it is you! All your blindness is there! None of this strikes your attention. And yet this is what keeps one
world separate from another world.
You have no measure with which to measure yourself. You live exclusively according to "I like" or "I don't like," you have no
appreciation except for yourself. You recognize nothing above you- theoretically, logically, perhaps, but actually no. That is why you
are demanding and continue to believe that everything is cheap and that you have enough in your pocket to buy everything you like. You
recognize nothing above you, either outside yourself or inside. That is why, I repeat, you have no measure and live passively according to
your likes and dislikes.
Yes, your "appreciation of yourself" blinds you. It is the biggest obstacle to a new life. You must be able to get over this obstacle,
this threshold, before going further. This test divides men into two kinds: the "wheat" and the "chaff." No matter how intelligent, how
gifted, how brilliant a man may be, if he does not change his appreciation of himself, there will be no hope for an inner
development, for a work toward self-knowledge, for a true becoming. He will remain such as he is all his life. The first requirement, the
first condition, the first test for one who wishes to work on himself is to change his appreciation of himself. He must not imagine, not
simply believe or think, but see things in himself which he has never seen before, see them actually. His appreciation will never be able
to change as long as he sees nothing in himself. And in order to see, he must learn to see; this is the first initiation of man into self-
knowledge.
First of all, he has to know what he must look at. When he knows, he must make efforts, keep his attention, look constantly with
persistence. Only through maintaining his attention, and not forgetting to look, one day, perhaps, he will be able to see. If he
sees one time he can see a second time, and if that continues he will no longer be able not to see. This is the state to be looked for, it
is the aim of our observation; it is from there that the true wish will be born, the irresistible wish to become: from cold we shall
become warm, vibrant; we shall be touched by our reality.
Today we have nothing but the illusion of what we are. We think too highly of ourselves. We do not respect ourselves. In order to respect
myself, I have to recognize a part in myself which is above the other parts, and my attitude toward this part should bear witness to the
respect that I have for it. In this way I shall respect myself. And my relations with others will be governed by the same respect.
You must understand that all the other measures-talent, education, culture, genius-are changing measures, measures of detail. The only
exact measure, the only unchanging, objective real measure is the measure of inner vision. I see-I see myself-by this, you have
measured. With one higher real part, you have measured another lower part, also real. And this measure, defining by itself the role of
each part, will lead you to respect for yourself.
But you will see that it is not easy. And it is not cheap. You must pay dearly. For bad payers, lazy people, parasites, no hope. You must
pay, pay a lot, and pay immediately, pay in advance. Pay with yourself. By sincere, conscientious, disinterested efforts. The more
you are prepared to pay without economizing, without cheating, without any falsification, the more you will receive. And from that
time on you will become acquainted with your nature. And you will see all the tricks, all the dishonesties that your nature resorts to in
order to avoid paying hard cash. Because you have to pay with your ready-made theories, with your rooted convictions, with your
prejudices, your conventions, your "I like" and "I don't like." Without bargaining, honestly, without pretending. Trying "sincerely"
to see as you offer your counterfeit money.
Try for a moment to accept the idea that you are not what you believe yourself to be, that you overestimate yourself, in fact that you lie
to yourself. That you always lie to yourself every moment, all day, all your life. That this lying rules you to such an extent that you
cannot control it any more. You are the prey of lying. You lie, everywhere. Your relations with others-lies. The upbringing you give,
the conventions-lies. Your teaching-lies. Your theories, your art lies. Your social life, your family life-lies. And what you think of
yourself-lies also.
But you never stop yourself in what you are doing or in what you are saying because you believe in yourself. You must stop inwardly and
observe. Observe without preconceptions, accepting for a time this idea of lying. And if you observe in this way, paying with yourself,
without self-pity, giving up all your supposed riches for a moment of reality, perhaps you will suddenly see something you have never
before seen in yourself until this day.
You will see that you are different from what you think you are. You will see that you are two. One who is not, but takes the place and plays the role of the other.
And one who is, yet so weak, so insubstantial, that he no sooner appears than he immediately disappears. He cannot endure lies. The
least lie makes him faint away. He does not struggle, he does not resist, he is defeated in advance. Learn to look until you have seen
the difference between your two natures, until you have seen the lies, the deception in yourself. When you have seen your two natures,
that day, in yourself, the truth will be born.
My request was made to Laura and she was perfectly capable of declining my request or never answering my email, I have no problem at all with that. I also realize that many people have had bizarre experiences, that I am not the only one and that I am not special in the least in that regard, point taken. :D
As for the above excerpt, I'm not sure how you wanted me to take this. Obviously you intended to make a point unless you are in the habit of copy pasting excerpts at will for no apparent reason....Perhaps your choice of text combined with your lack of knowledge about me could explain why I became defense...food for thought :)