...The basic cultural blueprint guiding people today is largely insane in terms of our prospects for social and psychological well-being. ...
Most books about happiness have been written from the perspective of the individual. These often describe ways in which the person can enhance their own happiness in relation to their personal circumstances. ... The approach I took was to explore the whole issue of happiness in a wide historical and cultural perspective. ... that draws from multiple sources of knowledge, including psychology, sociology, anthropology, evolutionary biology, philosophy, economics, and religious studies. I try to define the essence of happiness at various ages in the past, as well as what it has become and where it is going as a result of the current mega-forces that give direction to our lives. ...
When I look around me, I do not see a very happy world. This is despite the collective preoccupation with happiness, and with anything that can make people happier. The majority of people still appear to be living in ways that are not conducive to happiness. Some people will disagree with this view, pointing out that a high percentage of individuals still claim to be happy. But in my mind, we were meant to be far more social, spiritual, loving, and intellectually engaged than we are being programmed to be by modern consumer culture. ...
I use words such as 'genuine", "authentic", and "deep-felt" to describe the higher grades of happiness that contrast sharply with the more superficial varieties that tend to be the consequence of contemporary consumer living. I make the point that millions of people have been sent on a wild goose chase for a type of happiness that does not nourish them at the base of their being. In doing so, may modern people are losing sight of, and neglecting important aspects of, their lives and their relationships. ...
Happiness now reigns supreme over noble priorities such as love, health, family, God, wisdom, and honesty. Get happy. The rest is icing on the cake. In surveys that ask "what is the most important thing in life?" happiness is by far the most common answer. When people are asked what they want more than anything else, "happiness" comes out head and shoulders above all other goals. Ask parents what they want, above all else, for their children and their answers will be the same: "To be happy."
Little or no tolerance remains for bad news. Books with negative-sounding words in their titles do not sell well. Personal ads presenting the person as sober and socially concerned get few replies. Positiveness, even in the face of an apocalyptic nightmare, has become so vogue that pessimists and realists have lost almost all appeal. The cheerleaders are policing the game with an iron fist. All of society's seers are at risk of being neutered by the decree of mandatory positivity. Only the bravest are not being bullied into cheering up or at least shutting up.
...The quest of happiness has become nothing short of a cultural obsession. Never before has our species been more preoccupied with issues of happiness, or more fearful that they might not be as happy as they could be. It is not true, as we have come to assume, that human beings naturally regard happiness as the main purpose of life, or the highest value that steers their existence. Personal happiness as an end in itself that transcends all other values and goals is quite a recent development.
Albert Einstein once said "Happiness never appeared to me as an absolute aim. I am even inclined to compare such moral aims to the ambitions of a pig." Some say that this pigs-at-the-trough analogy is appropriate for the way in which people today strive to slurp up happiness.
...Journalist Jeremy Seabook spoke out recently about his reasons for turning against all the happiness fanfare. He writes about victims like himself of fraudulent happiness in his Guardian newspaper article "For People Like Me, This Era of Insistent Jollity Is a Trial. He describes his own temperament as "melancholic" but not depressed, and says it is simply his nature to view the world in the wider realities of loss, decay, and misfortune. But all around him, he sees people drive to delete these realities from their experience in order to drape themselves in a veil of mirth: "I have experienced as violence the emergence of the culture of compulsory industrialised joy, which is the companion of consumerism." Not surprisingly, Seabrook's article was jeered immediately by angry happiness fans. ...
The happiness rage is revealing itself in many ways... never-ending stream of self-help books, magazine articles, feel-good gurus, television and radio programmes, workshops, infomerical videos and DVDs, internet discussion lists and so on... promise to fast track us to the ultimate prize of happiness. ... New professions such as happiness counselling, happiness coaching, life-lift coaching, and joyology are being invented to cope with the demand.
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Elisha Tarlow Friedman and her colleagues post the question "Is there some point beyond which the energy, enthusiasm, and sociability normally associated with happiness would give way to smug complacency, obnoxious arrogance, and lack of motivation." ...
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The depression statistics do not seem to match up with the results of happiness surveys. The discrepancy is especially great in some "happy" countries. In Sweden, for instance, only 4 percent of people report being "not very happy" or "not at all happy." At the same time, Sweden is dealing the the same plague of depression afflicting the rest of the Western world, plus its suicide rate is nearly double that of the world average.
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The growing preoccupation with personal happiness is bound up with the self-absorption that has come to shape people's identity and their understanding of what it means to feel good. As people have retreated into themselves, happiness has become somewhat autistic in the way it is defined and experienced. Increasingly, it is become a private affair. In the process, many things that make one feel good by way of direct engagement with the outside world have lost an association with happiness. For example, states of awe, reverence, fascination, and empathy can feel extremely good. But all of these are interactive or shared. We sometimes no longer feel that these are happy experiences since happiness now tends to be comprehended as something that is ours and ours alone. ...
The high levels of self-absorbed happiness that exist today may be driving people crazy. Repression and depression are closely related. At its most basic level, genuine happiness is unity with one's nature, which is essentially a social and spiritual nature. It could be that the dehumanised variety of happiness that people chase today in consumer culture requires them to repress certain emotions and basic human tendencies that make this type of happiness depressing.
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Relativism dominates our current thinking about happiness. This means that we do not make judgments about the quality of a person's supposed happiness, or how he or she got to be happy in the first place. So long as someone says "I'm happy", it does not matter if he or she got that way by fighting poverty, selling seal pup pelts, collecting Smurf toys, or leading a skin-head gang. ...
All modes of happiness are an extension of a person's values. ... Ayn Rand: "Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values."
This changes the question from "what makes you happy?" to "what are your values?"
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Sometimes the key values of a society ... are revealed in the greetings and well-wishings that people give to one another. ...traditional Mongolian greeting: "Your animals are fattening up nicely" or give hopes that their animals will fatten up. Many native societies of North America tended to wish each other beauty. Their counterpart of "Have a nice day" was "May you always walk in beauty." They tended to see the Europeans as peculiarly impoverished when it came to the skill of living beautifully. The way of the Europeans seemed ugly and u7nnecessarily destructive, especially regarding their relationship to the natural world. This was diametrically opposed to all of their wisdom about a beautiful life.
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This beauty goes far beyond the passive recognition of beauty outside of oneself. It is understood as the highest form of consciousness and the ultimate goal of human destiny. ...For the Navajo, one does not find beauty, just as one does not find happiness. One enters into beauty by firstly creating it, and then incorporating it into oneself. One achieves beauty by becoming beautiful. The Navajo might also say that one becomes happy only when one becomes happiness itself. It is an active process that requires individuals to develop themselves to the fullest, and to become fountains from which happiness flows out the the rest of the world.
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The vast majority of people within any society will think of themselves as happy in their lives match up with the values that are the product of their cultural indoctrination.
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In the West, coming first is a primary value. Being last is assumed to be the same thing as being unhappy. So self-reports of happiness will be influenced by the extent to which a person feels that he or she is leading or lagging behind the pack. ...The quest to be the first is the prime source of the social alienation that is blamed for the rapidly deteriorating mental health of the modern Western person. ...
"Values pollution" is sometimes used to describe the sick values that are circulating in consumer society. ...an inferior, precarious, and fleeting happiness that only feels like happiness because it somehow coincides with the prevailing values of the culture. We do not usually think in terms of the fitness of lack of fitness of a culture. But cultures are capable of developing catastrophic flaws... we now live in a culture of unhappiness. Being happy within it is no guarantee that one has found a healthy format for happiness. ... the healthiest people in a society as sick as the one that exists today in the West are more likely to feel unhappy and abnormal. ...
The appetites for the present type of (material) happiness is often insatiable and compulsive. ...
The modern person finds it difficult to experience any emotion at a very deep level. In most cases, their sense of being happy is a false and fabricated one.
There is an air of desperation about the modern plea for happiness. The sheer size and intensity of it suggests a huge vacuum which people are trying to fill. The existing quick-fix solutions do not seem to be doing the job.
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{Archaeology reveals} Our precivilised ancestors existed in groups of between fifty and one hundred people, often said to be the intended size of human survival groups. They had very close kinship ties, and a strong network of cooperation and social support that was essential to their survival.
They were well fed, nutritionally healthy, intelligent, and resourceful. ... They ate what we were meant to eat as human beings. Their diet was actually so healthy that it probably had beneficial consequences for both physical and emotional health. Likewise, they received lots of physical exercise throughout the course of their daily activities, none of which were abbreviated by conveniences and technology.
There is little doubt that diet, nutrition, and exercise contribute to one's potential for experiencing positive emotion. ...the modern diet has a negative impact on the body as well as the mind. ... the healthiest of all possible diets is the one eaten by our Paleolithic ancestors. ...
A number of scholars have even been willing to speculate the pre-civilised people were a genuinely happier lot than those who inhabit the modern "dead zone of civilisation" as primitivist John Zerzan calls it.
"Primitivism" refers to a radical philosophy that views civilisation and "progress" as the main culprits for most of the social, psychological, and environmental ills plaguing the contemporary world. While still limited to the cultural fringes, the rising popularity of eco-primitivism has drawn more attention to this school of thought in recent years. ... eco-primitivists argue that one cannot, or should not, be happy while participating in the wholesale destruction of nature. Instead, happiness that resonates with the human spirit is only possible in the context of living in harmony with the natural world. Nothing deserves to be called happiness if it contributes to the demise of life. Any true happiness is life-supporting.
Primitivism denounces civilisation on the grounds that it strips human beings of equality, freedom and community. ... Civilisation is a killer of natural tendencies toward communal sharing, peacefulness, playfulness, and reverence for nature. While many primitivists accept that we are now trapped in civilisation, they see many ways that we can improve physical, mental, and environmental health by following the example of our paleolithic ancestors.
Primitivism is primarily a response to the monumental crises facing humanity. ... There is undoubtedly some merit in the primitivist argument that a quality heart-felt happiness is not possible once people have become insane in terms of their own natures, and their attitudes toward the planet upon which they and future generations rely for survival.
Zerzan writes: "Prior to agriculture, humanity existed in a state of grace, ease, and communion with nature that we can barely comprehend today" By comparison, he adds, we moderns live in "an upside-down landscape wherein real life is steadily being drained out by debased work, the hollow cycle of consumerism and the emptiness of high-tech dependency.
As challenging as life may have been back then, it was aligned to our neurological and physiological heritage. ... A good match between biology and the environment minimises stress and maximises the prospects for reward and gratification. ...
The concept of Environment of Evolutionary Adaptation (EEA) is sometimes used to describe the conditions to which our genetics have become adapted. The human EEA reflects an environment that existed during the Middle of Late Paleolithic period, from around 200,000 years ago until the dawn of agriculture somewhere between 15,000 and 10,000 years ago. A discord simply refers to a situation or set of demands that force people out of their EEA.
...There are many serious rifts between our biological design and the modern environment...
...moderns grow up without adequate parenting, sufficient nurturance, or social connectedness. These factors and others take a heavy toll on our sense of control, the ability to withstand adversity, and the quality of our relationships. Our immune system also takes a beating under extreme discord conditions. ...
We are not living like human beings. ...
Without... living exactly like our Paleolithic ancestors, we can imitate them by increasing the closeness of our extended kin. This pertains to both physical and emotional closeness. We could develop true friendships of the type that existed in an age prior to the "fair-weather" friendships that dominate today. ... begin to again notice the gifts of nature that are sources of beauty, wonder and nourishment.
The concept of an intact "moral net" is used to express a situation in which people are experiencing maximum social and emotional well-being as a result of living in accord with their basic human nature. ...
The moral net does not refer to isolated individuals who are able to achieve well-being by meeting their own personal needs. Instead it refers to the overall fitness of a culture in terms of the intactness of its belief systems, social institutions, codes of ethics and behaviour, ritual and ceremonial traditions, initiation practices that establish a person's place within the group, and systems of activity that promote cooperation and harmony.
...the word "moral" is used as a measure of a culture's ability to meet indispensable needs such as belongingness, transcendence, identity, recognition, intellectual stimulation, and physical expression. ... It lays an existential foundation that lets people make sense of birth and death, and everything in between. ...
A vast amount of anthropological research over the years shows that a weakening of the overall "moral net" is the primary factor determining the prevalence of problems such as depression, anxiety, drug and alcohol abuse, marital breakdown, psychosomatic disorders, sleep disturbances, and delinquency. The general thrust of the data reveals that modernisation has the consequence of cutting away at the "moral net" and making people vulnerable at all levels. ...modernity seems to be rather backwards when it comes to emotional health.
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The anthropological literature contains quite a bit about the Ibans. The first medical anthropologists to encounter them were unable to find any evidence of neurotic mental disorders. The longhouse is often described as an ideal type of social structure that is exceptionally well suited to the way in which we human beings evolved. For thousands of years, it provided a largely seamless cultural existence that gave people of all ages a clearly defined role, and a shared system of belief, ritual and custom. It was the ultimate in terms of an intact interconnected community. It left no cracks through which people could fall into meaninglessness, alienation, and existential fog.
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Prehistoric people had no choice except to be swept along in union with themselves and the world. Life was in motion. .... Individuals were fully integrated into the group, as well as impregnated by the natural and spiritual worlds. There was no room for the type of happiness anxiety that provokes judgments about the value of one's private emotional portfolio. Individualism and narcissism were a long way off. ... There was no need to make an effort to be happy. They had not yet been expelled from the natural order of things.
...Paleolithic people had a much higher degree of emotional intelligence of the type that lets one recognise feelings as they occur, identify the emotions of others, and act on emotions as they arise. These are things at which Paleolithic people excelled due to their bond to the moment...
... certainly the more immediate experience of emotion ... resulted in tensions that needed to be resolved as they arose. It had not become profitable to suspend, delay, or avoid conflict ... A modern outsider looking in on their world might come away feeling they were not always being as nice as they could be. ... the absence of emotional dishonesty bore fruits in terms of their ability to experience happiness and avoid the build-up of toxic emotion. This meant that they probably had ongoing means of catharsis.
If the emotions were more alive in pre-civilised times, the same was probably true of the mind. ... the intellect of our paleolithic ancestors was almost certainly much more active than what we find in the anti-intellectual modern age. Our technology and information access can create the illusion that we are mental giants.... from the standpoint of the rapture that a well-exercised mind can deliver, the primitive environment was far superior to that of consumer culture with its steady diet of intellectual shortcuts and brain-numbing distractions. It offered more ongoing challenges and was a richer foundation for curiosity, exploration, and wonder. Few things are more closely associated with happiness than these.
The native landscape was a perpetual classroom that not only edified but also fostered genuine maturity. Hayes makes the following comparison between our early ancestors and the modern person whose mind has ceased to be a source of happiness.
"In primitive societies, all members who reached maturity were expected to use their intelligence in order to contribute to the good of the whole. Imagine the improbability of finding members of a hunter-gatherer society who expressed pride in their lack of knowledge about hunting and food preparation. Contemporary anti-intellectualism is no less ridiculous; we've just learned to accept it as normal. Among our Stone Age ancestors, survival depended upon devoting one's full attention to one's present activities, whatever they were at the moment. That we assume that our ancient ancestors were stupid reflects an enormous gap in what we refer to today as intelligence."
Without trying to romanticise prehistoric life, the people back then undoubtedly had a tremendous eye for detail. This was born from their here-and-now time location, and their need to be intimately attuned to the immediate environment. It had the effect of tuning them to all potential channels of happiness. ...
Mindfulness has been defined as "paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment". It means "on purpose" in the sense that the mind is focused and not distracted by competing thoughts and sensations. All this takes place in the Now, without contamination from future anticipations. When people are mindful, they can stay with an experience, and not have it be discoloured by negative emotions that intrude from other sources. This creates an emotional anchor that allows for feelings of calmness, contentment, and freedom. Our early ancestors had a high degree of mindfulness...
...The Rainbow Man, Banjo Clarke, had an astonishing ability to pick up on the subtlest of things around him. As we walked, he would point out birds and animals, sounds, colours, textures, and movements that eluded me completely. ... my senses were dead. He was operating at a level of perception far beyond my own. I was too far ahead of myself to be alive to what was around me. ...
The second lasting impression... the profound connection that Banjo had with the bush and with nature. He walked through it with reverence, and seemed rewarded by love and calmness. ... an intense spirituality that radiated the long-lost knowledge of the sacredness of the natural order, and our duty to respectfully concede to its genius. ...
...all life, both human and animal, coexists in an intricate, unchanging relationship that is orchestrated by the spirit ancestors.
There are several early accounts of the natives themselves who were baffled by the obvious unhappiness of the European arrivals. They did not dance, sing or celebrate. They laughed very little unless intoxicated. They had no magic. No miracles.