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I know exactly what i control and what i don't, what i can control, and what i can't. I can't beleive i "control my own life", because i know this is false, i can only control some aspects. For example, i do not control the fact that i am ugly, stupid, lazy (ok, maybe i have a little control on that), etc... However, "control" is a key feature of my "pathology", i don't like when something is not under my control (this is why i don't like life, because there is too many uncontrollable parameters). This is why my life is focused on avoiding the most as possible what i can't control. For example: i can't control the traffic, so i risk to be annoyed any day. However, i can control how to be fired from my job, so i manage to be fired, then i don't have to deal with traffic to go at my job. Alternative: don't caring about being late at the job; you take both advantages 1. you are less annoyed and anxious about traffic until you are fired 2. you finally are fired, so you don't wasting your time any more in traffic. Well, fortunatly, i am a litle creative, so i can manage my "pathology" with this kind of scenario...
I don't tolerate the fail so i don't even try except if i am sure to succeed. Another key rule for me is : If people are better than me, mean i am not the right guy for that, so giving up, and let other people do... The fact is that i am the best in no domain, so i am perfectly useless, so giving up is now a general rule for me.
In fact i raised the "procrastination" concept to a transcendental level... since i am afraid of both failure and success (success leads to more work, people begin to believe in you, so you get responsabilities, then this is more risk to fail and more pressure if you fail, or even worst: you can discover your own limits ! arghh !!! ), and i am lazy... so, i prefer to stay a pathological loser. Right here, it's cool, i am a loser, no responsibility, no one is counting on me, i can die almost nobody will notice my absence, the universe can continue without me, it's ok.
Ha ha ha... what a joke... fortunately, i learned to avoid conflict...
Are you crazy ? ... the whole life is an "discomfort", why would you want to "live more" (more discomfort) ?... you know this feeling when you wake up at 6 AM after 3 hours of sleeping ? That feeling, ALL THE TIME (well, almost, often, from some relative point of view)... I am totaly confident in life to thow me into discomfort, the life is very talented for that.
What success ? what for ? is there a contest ? No one told me ! i declare withdrawal...
They don’t make excuses. If there’s one trait confident people have in spades, it’s self-efficacy—the belief that they can make things happen. It’s about having an internal locus of control rather than an external one. That’s why you won’t hear confident people blaming traffic for making them late or an unfair boss for their failure to get a promotion. Confident people don’t make excuses, because they believe they’re in control of their own lives.
I know exactly what i control and what i don't, what i can control, and what i can't. I can't beleive i "control my own life", because i know this is false, i can only control some aspects. For example, i do not control the fact that i am ugly, stupid, lazy (ok, maybe i have a little control on that), etc... However, "control" is a key feature of my "pathology", i don't like when something is not under my control (this is why i don't like life, because there is too many uncontrollable parameters). This is why my life is focused on avoiding the most as possible what i can't control. For example: i can't control the traffic, so i risk to be annoyed any day. However, i can control how to be fired from my job, so i manage to be fired, then i don't have to deal with traffic to go at my job. Alternative: don't caring about being late at the job; you take both advantages 1. you are less annoyed and anxious about traffic until you are fired 2. you finally are fired, so you don't wasting your time any more in traffic. Well, fortunatly, i am a litle creative, so i can manage my "pathology" with this kind of scenario...
They don’t quit. Confident people don’t give up the first time something goes wrong. They see both problems and failures as obstacles to overcome rather than impenetrable barriers to success. That doesn’t mean, however, that they keep trying the same thing over and over. One of the first things confident people do when something goes wrong is to figure out why it went wrong and how they can prevent it the next time.
I don't tolerate the fail so i don't even try except if i am sure to succeed. Another key rule for me is : If people are better than me, mean i am not the right guy for that, so giving up, and let other people do... The fact is that i am the best in no domain, so i am perfectly useless, so giving up is now a general rule for me.
They don’t put things off. Why do people procrastinate? Sometimes it’s simply because they’re lazy. A lot of times, though, it’s because they’re afraid—that is, afraid of change, failure, or maybe even success. Confident people don’t put things off. Because they believe in themselves and expect that their actions will lead them closer to their goals, they don’t sit around waiting for the right time or the perfect circumstances. They know that today is the only time that matters. If they think it’s not the right time, they make it the right time.
In fact i raised the "procrastination" concept to a transcendental level... since i am afraid of both failure and success (success leads to more work, people begin to believe in you, so you get responsabilities, then this is more risk to fail and more pressure if you fail, or even worst: you can discover your own limits ! arghh !!! ), and i am lazy... so, i prefer to stay a pathological loser. Right here, it's cool, i am a loser, no responsibility, no one is counting on me, i can die almost nobody will notice my absence, the universe can continue without me, it's ok.
They don’t avoid conflict. Confident people don’t see conflict as something to be avoided at all costs; they see it as something to manage effectively. They don’t go along to get along, even when that means having uncomfortable conversations or making unpleasant decisions. They know that conflict is part of life and that they can’t avoid it without cheating themselves out of the good stuff, too.
Ha ha ha... what a joke... fortunately, i learned to avoid conflict...
They don’t get too comfortable. Confident people understand that getting too comfortable is the mortal enemy of achieving their goals. That’s because they know that comfort leads to complacency, and complacency leads to stagnation. When they start feeling comfortable, they take that as a big red flag and start pushing their boundaries again so that they can continue to grow as both a person and a professional. They understand that a little discomfort is a good thing.
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Are you crazy ? ... the whole life is an "discomfort", why would you want to "live more" (more discomfort) ?... you know this feeling when you wake up at 6 AM after 3 hours of sleeping ? That feeling, ALL THE TIME (well, almost, often, from some relative point of view)... I am totaly confident in life to thow me into discomfort, the life is very talented for that.
Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success
What success ? what for ? is there a contest ? No one told me ! i declare withdrawal...