I went to a biological dentist to treat the abscess described
here. This was after the first dentist I went to in a panic drilled a hole in my tooth to drain it, but was insistent that mercury fillings were safe. Specifically, when I brought the topic up, he asked in a condescending tone, "Are you a dentist?" After I said no he "informed" me; "You can't believe everything you read online." I didn't have the nerve or presence to walk out, and he drilled a hole to drain the infection, and seemed to be surprised I felt no pain as he drilled out the root. (I have wondered since whether he was
hoping I'd feel pain. I'm not sure he gave me any anesthesia.) Then he prescribed me an evil fluoride-containing antibiotic (which I didn't take). See the problems not being able to stand up to anybody can cause!
I dropped him and went to the biological dentist, but I never felt completely safe there, either. The female dentist seemed somewhat worn-out, tired, or low on energy. It seemed hard to engage her with my concerns. She seemed like a good choice in theory; she had all the equipment for mercury removal, and good books in the office like one called "The Salt Lie(or Myth, or something similar)", and "
Nutrition and Physical Degeneration" by Weston A. Price and the Price-Pottenger Nutrition Foundation.
After putting a "temporary" resin filling (she said that they can actually last a long time or even indefinitely), got me on some chlorella and liposomal glutathione, as well as giving me some homeopathic supplements and suggesting oil-pulling (which I had already started doing in response to my research), she suggested ozone therapy, which we tried, but it did not defeat the infection (the abscess continued until just a few months ago, when it retreated on its own). In fact, it seems to have caused some nerve damage in the area; that tooth has felt strange ever since, and I noticed a slight change in my smile; I'm guessing that a motor nerve was damaged. Luckily it's not noticeable to others. It was not a cheap therapy, and insurance didn't cover it! In the end, she said if the therapy didn't work, it would require a root canal, which was by then not affordable to us.
Long story short; if you're afraid to act in your own favor regarding doctors and dentists, you're in for it!
The book Crucial Conversations might help in dealing with the difficulties of discussing concerns and wishes with doctors and dentists. Not to mention all of the psychology books and EE, to help with emotional preparedness. I seems to be stronger than I was before.
My 2 cents.