Michal, your thought is correct, and you don't have to leave it to anyone else. Together we may be able to see something that any one person does not, and so in that way we can all have each other's back, though it only works when we say something when we see something. I think of what the Cs said below, though applied not between the Cs and us, but between us ourselves.Don't worry Hlat. We give Peterson stick for his failings too, while recognizing his insights and achievements. The same applies to Sandra. Calling her a "snowflake" was a bit OTT, I admit, because I didn't and don't have enough evidence to draw that conclusion. Although I leave open the possibility that she might be one. I don't think she's very interested in this forum in general, or the work we do, outside of the interest we had in her work about 10 years ago, and I suspect, but don't know, that she would be horrified if she read some of our posts on certain topics. She might call you names if she read some of your posts.I suppose we'll never know. But for now, I would like to withdraw my statement that she's a "snowflake", for the reasons given.
This applies to the self too...how many people have natural abilities almost 2nd nature that people marvel at and yet the individual insists on a path of trying to do something difficult that is actually ill-suited for their God-given gifts? (Or gifts acquired through work in past lives?) So we do not respect in ourselves the things that come easy. It is boring. Not challenging enough...ugh.
Society is backwards! Weak men abuse their daughters who go on to abuse their sons who become weak men and so on. And everybody keeps suffering more and more each generation. Devouring mothers have graduated from mentally/emotionally castrating their sons to literally cutting their balls off and putting them in dresses, and still the weak men in their lives do nothing to stop the cycle of abuse. It's almost like this is a human farm designed to generate suffering or something.
We absolutely are more than muscle and blood. The point is that the type of men often called incels and simps can't reach those higher parts until they get in touch with their bodies and develop a modicum of willpower. I don't promote any pathophilosphy that I know of. Mostly I just try to get them to stop watching porn and hit the gym.
There's no need to caricature the misery of a man who was raised by a devouring mother. And the amazing outcome is that they can feel comfortable in their own skin and start seeing women as human beings with whom they can relate, instead of seeing them as imaginary extremes of either untouchable goddesses or vile whores. That's a scary thing for a woman to experience from a man, I know. And I feel for you and understand your fear of seeing that in men. Let me assure you that men don't like being stuck in that place either, and most of them are decent and desperately want a way out of that mental prison.
There is no blanket answer for everyone, but it's the one thing that was holding me back for most of my life and so I am duty bound to help others who are still stuck where I was. And I think maybe I caused some confusion by giving the impression that I'm equating male strength to physical strength. That's not what I mean. My wife's father had great physical strength. He was a 380lb Russian bear of a man. Not through any effort or will of his own. He was just born that way. And that big strong man had no organic will. He couldn't do anything his body didn't want to do, like keep a job and provide for his family. He couldn't stop himself from doing anything his body wanted to do, like drink all the time and take out his frustration over his own spinelessness on his children. He was a very weak willed man and his weakness created a lot of suffering for my wife.
