So, we have to have our own internal structure of values that we are pursuing. Otherwise, we donāt have any meaning in our life, and thatās no damn good. Then it has to be nested inside a shared structure of values that is similar, so that when we act out what we have learned to be good, we are treated by the world as if thatās good. Then we have peace. That is a definition of a functioning political system. We have organized a very complex moral game, and then we master it through reciprocal interaction with one another. We internalize it, so that it regulates our emotions, and then we act it out in the world, so that if there is a concordance between how we act it out and the way the world responds, then we are OK. There is nothing more disturbing, to you, than to act out a high-order moral goodāletās say you are working really hard at your job, for example, and you are hoping for a promotion. Letās say you deserve a promotion, by all reasonable standards, and then you donāt get one. It is taken. It is given to the bossā mistress, or some damn thing. It is given to someone who doesnāt deserve it by the canonical rules of the moral game. All it does is devastate you. The reason it devastates you is because it disrupts the relationship between the internal moral hierarchy that you have built and the collective hierarchy, and everything you have is staked on maintaining that isomorphism. Itās the same, even, in intimate relationships. If you do something good for your wife, or your husbandāyou go out of the way, maybe, to make a nice mealāthey come home, and they punish you, arbitrarily, for some tiny fault, maybe with the dinner, it is very disheartening. The reason is because, first of all, it violates your faith in your own inter-psychic hierarchy; second, in the structure of the social hierarchy; third, in the match between them. It is the match between them that is really important. We do not like mismatch between what we expectāespecially in terms of reward, especially when we really worked at itāand what we were delivered.