axj said:
I am wondering how the forum members who live in Russia see these problems. Am I imagining these to be bigger than they really are?
Well, I agree with Siberia, and please don't take it the wrong way, but it's possible that you still would feel more comfortable living somewhere else. Not sure.
The thing is, that all the problems that you brought up
- the all-pervasive corruption
- lack of an effective police/judicial system
- quite a lot of criminal activity
don't even factor into the hardships of everyday life in Russia (and I presume that they are pretty much the same for most of the people of both Russia and Belarus). There are many small and rather subtle things that you would need to accept and get used to living with on an everyday basis.
Take the living without hot water for more than two weeks, for example, since that is exactly what happens right in many cities in Russia. Sure, you could say - cool, cold adaptation and all. But what about mothers with small babies, or the fact that you can't really wash properly an oily dish with only cold water? So you need to boil the water first. Not a big deal really, but still - a bit less comfortable than just opening the tap.
And this "a bit less comfortable" characterizes most of the things here. And, yeah, I also had to get used to it myself, especially to the idea that no one is particularly interested in solving my problems beside myself. It may seem cold, and Russians aren't really egotists, who will throw you under the bus, so to say. But they do follow the motto that one's fate is in one's hands, so everyone has to go an extra mile if they want something to be done for themselves or their family.
But since you are Russian, maybe you already know all of this. fwiw.