I too was an only child, and agree with both Shijing and Nienna Eluch:
My problem was not so much being an only child that may have influenced my interpersonal skills, the predominant factor for me was neonatal trauma. And, dealing with that is similar to what is posted above – learn the programmes running us, and Work on getting them under control by getting to the root cause of the problem and taking the learnings from the situation to reverse the brain chemicals back to normal.
Thinking of the concept of being an only child as being discouraging, or a reason for trouble relating with others is merely allowing the programmes to dominate your behaviour rather than getting to grips with the root cause of the problem – you, and your programmes that are perpetuating your Illusion. Work involves doing what the False Personality, the perpetuator of the Illusion, does not want to do – and that is getting out of the comfort zone of being who you have been, and losing its power to the real you.
This may help or not.
Nienna Eluch said:Shijing said:In other words, whether we had siblings or not is only one factor making up the entire environment in which we were raised. Of course, there may have been any number of problems with that for any of us, but I don't think that being an only child by itself automatically puts one at an extreme disadvantage -- or creates problems that can't be dealt with by working on oneself now.
I agree with Shijing. Knowledge protects, and once we learn the programs that are running us, we can then Work on getting them under control, clean out the repressed emotions, which are part and parcel of the programming and read the books in the recommended reading list to fill in the clear spots we are creating in ourselves by getting rid of a lot of useless baggage.
My problem was not so much being an only child that may have influenced my interpersonal skills, the predominant factor for me was neonatal trauma. And, dealing with that is similar to what is posted above – learn the programmes running us, and Work on getting them under control by getting to the root cause of the problem and taking the learnings from the situation to reverse the brain chemicals back to normal.
Thinking of the concept of being an only child as being discouraging, or a reason for trouble relating with others is merely allowing the programmes to dominate your behaviour rather than getting to grips with the root cause of the problem – you, and your programmes that are perpetuating your Illusion. Work involves doing what the False Personality, the perpetuator of the Illusion, does not want to do – and that is getting out of the comfort zone of being who you have been, and losing its power to the real you.
This may help or not.