@littlehelp, I am curious...
how long have you been connected to this forum, what do you feel qualifies the statements you are making about the 'progress' of those connected to the forum/Fellowship, and your statements in general in your last post?
@littlehelp...
I didn't have an opportunity to write a proper reply to you in the above message, but now I have some time to acknowledge a few of the things you shared. You covered a lot of 'issues' in your message... to be honest, I am struggling to clearly comprehend your views about a few topics, but will do my best to interpret what I am 'hearing' - perhaps you won't mind if I try to clarify what you are saying?
ENGAGING WITH THE FORUM:
I asked a few questions (quoted above) in relation to your connection with the forum, because I am genuinely curious to know how you have come to such strong conclusions about this group.
Given that you seem to only have 4 posts connected to your avatar, and appear to only have joined mid November this year, it seems a little strange that you say this about the forum:
The situation here is very bad. The progress that was made in one year is approximately one inch. Yes 1 inch. Compare this to a snails pace and even blind can see that something is wrong. This thread is full of selfish posts or posts that are not important because they have almost zero potential to help others. This thread just makes me sad.
Sorry if i was too direct, but i just can't stay quiet anymore, I just can't.
Setting aside your own subjective statements above regarding 'progress' (I see that very differently myself), I can only conclude that you have been a 'guest' on the forum for quite some time (observing interactions between others on the forum). Personally, I don't have any issues with this at all, I know it can take some people time to decide if joining this group is right for them. However, it seems a bit strange that you have now registered as a forum participant, you appear to have spent time on the forum and consider yourself 'well informed' about it (and the Fellowship), and have many comments about your observations regarding the 'progress' or rate of 'growth' of the group as a whole; you have launched yourself into a conversation offering many strong views and vented regarding your frustrations - yet have not taken a little time to
show courtesy to others by introducing yourself (ie: share something about how you found the forum / why you felt inspired to connect with the group / what you hope to experience / what you are committed to bringing to the group / what work you have done in terms of your own personal development and in growing your own knowledge base etc).
It seems a bit bizarre when someone suddenly appears 'out of the blue', offers nothing of themselves or really even a 'hello', launches into a big 'download' that can appear (to many) to be a lot of judgement, criticism and negativity. It's not really the kind of interaction that inspires positive exchange in communication with others. Nor does it seem particularly
respectful to anyone, particularly those founding / long term members of the Fellowship/forum - who, in the face of enormous challenge and considerable adversity, have worked tirelessly... painstakingly, to build this 'house' from the ground up, with the intention of offering an inspiring 'meeting place' for seekers to connect, to share information and support one another in genuine and meaningful ways, to potentially explore and experience some kind of co-linearity on some level, and to strengthen and anchor the frequency which has been activated within the group. Their efforts have been pretty incredible when you take the time to reflect and appreciate it on a deeper level.
So... it might be polite to introduce yourself.
"Hi, I'm littlehelp. Great to meet you."
From the general impression of your communications posted so far;
it sounds/feels to me personally, that at the core of things you are actually saying something along the lines of:
I am deeply worried about humanity.
We are running out of 'time'.
People need help to 'wake up', there are many 'good people' out there who deserve a chance.
People need to be given the opportunity to discover the 'truth' and access ways to support their own growth.
People in the forum could do more to actively and directly help one another in the forum / Fellowship.
People in the forum should be actively / openly sharing information discussed and researched here with others out in the world.
People in the forum 'seem to be afraid' of behaving in an 'STS way'.
People in the forum are not really motivated to behave in an 'STO way'.
I am disappointed that more people in the forum are not making an effort in the way I feel they 'should' be.
I am frustrated that all the hard work that has been put into creating this group is not being utilised in a more effective way.
I am worried (terrified?) we will 'fail' the mission.
(apologies if I have got any of this wrong)
I
think you are also saying that:
There is some kind of 'imbalance' within the forum.
(Multiple?) souls are possibly missing from this group.
You believe souls need to be in 'pairs' to realise their optimum potential - otherwise you feel they are 'incomplete' and less effective.
Are you suggesting that there could be 'pairs' of souls who are compatible with one another (within this group), but they do not recognise one another - but if they did, the forum would be operating in the 'optimum way'? (Just want to clarify that.)
HONOURING CONTRIBUTIONS ON THE FORUM:
your post helped a lot, because it serves as a perfect example of what I was talking about when I was talking about dispersion of knowledge. I was talking about a simple fact that many people can be helped easily by investing more effort when writing a message and making a post. If I compare your post to some other posts in this thread there is huge difference. The difference is that you put a lot of effort into writing it and it shows. It is written intelligibly and I can clearly understand every point you make. Also it shows some serious problem that is widespread on this forum and the entirety of group.
Whether we read something which:
- has required huge effort / dedication / hours of research on the part of the writer,
- is brief / concise / 'to the point'
- is something warm / compassionate / encouraging
- is like a laser, cutting away the illusion, supporting the reader to see differently, with more clarity.
- is something that makes you laugh, smile, breathe a little easier, is uplifting, inspiring...
IMHO, many
posts are genuine, sincere offerings on the forum, and are valuable to different people in different ways, no matter their duration or 'depth'. What is
valued or 'seen' by one person, might not resonate with someone else... from what I can discern, there is a broad spectrum of input from everyone willing to participate; this seems to have evolved naturally throughout the forum over time, and I feel is really healthy. Some people may offer something you personally consider 'insignificant' or below the 'expectations' of someone else, but for that individual who posted something - that might be all they are capable of offering at that time, and the only way they will improve is with practice and encouragement and direct engagement, so I guess it helps to consider all the dynamics.
I appreciate that the 'brevity' or what you personally interpret as 'lack of effort' in some messages frustrates you, littlehelp, but due to many here having limited time available to participate on the forum, and the sheer volume of threads that cycle through, many have learned to be concise, clear and brief in their communications. Perhaps it helps to remember that not everyone here speaks English, not everyone feels comfortable communicating in writing, some might not feel they have anything useful or meaningful to say, don't have a lot of confidence, some individuals might have phenomenal communication skills in direct person to person situations, but maybe these do not translate so well when they write. Some have physical challenges that make it difficult to spend long periods working on a computer. Some are not great with technology, some have limited access to the internet. We are all finding our way through this together, each in our own way.
Most people connected to this forum are dealing with a lot of pressure in their own lives. Many have a lot of responsibilities, busy jobs, families, overwhelm, serious financial challenge and hardship, massive health challenges, (some all of those at the same time!). Many people make the effort to write posts on the forum that are supportive and helpful to others, to show care, concern and solidarity, try to offer helpful suggestions / links to information, particularly if someone is really struggling; they may not be long posts, but they do their best to stay connected. I feel that generally speaking, many people are doing all they can. (The C's have acknowledged more recently that there are some 'slackers' but that is for each individual to explore and remedy if they feel inspired).
Also,
it helps to consider that there are a lot of people in the Fellowship and forum who are involved in lots of 'behind the scenes' efforts which can involve daily and weekly commitments (on top of everything else in their lives!). It takes a lot to coordinate and run this 'house' and it costs a lot to keep the 'home fires burning' so that these dedicated souls can give their all -
not simply for their own growth in knowledge / personal development - but just as importantly, for those who find their way here. There are also multiple online meetings which occur regularly, members who also regularly produce material for SOTT, Objective Health, MindMatters etc offering regular, insightful, stimulating discussions in the form of online presentations, there are regular meetings offering support for others. There are incredible books being written, there are communities and meetings connecting online all over the globe, there is an online store and products and income streams to organise... my god I feel exhausted just thinking about it all.
MENTORING:
It really would help if someone who is one step in front of you could teach you at least the basics, maybe some teacher.
And if someone says "but you cannot force anyone to learn", that is true but you can give them opportunity. You can create the best possible conditions so that the progress is maximized. Like there can be group which clearly already exists that would help those who are part of the group. Or why are you all here?
This does happen, every day. There are different 'mentors' (
ambassadors) who are connected to the forum who offer support to others daily. They are not here to 'change diapers' or spoon-feed anyone, but they offer support on a regular basis to those posting on the forum. There are also other members who have been connected to the forum for a decent period of time who step up and offer knowledge or support where they are able. From my personal experience, I find the people here amazing and have a great deal of love and respect for the group and genuinely value my connection here. This group has transformed my life on so many levels and I am so much happier and healthier every day because of all these diverse souls and their efforts to contribute in a meaningful way. I have never had anyone be unkind, cruel, humiliate or belittle me in any way for my lack of knowledge or awareness, instead, people offer support and encouragement and practical ways for me to explore further knowledge / a different perspective. They are honest and genuine. There is a lot of positive flow, empathy and respect for one another. None of us are walking an easy path in these times, I think most here are very mindful of this.
littlehelp, when you have time, please let me know if you feel I have interpreted your message correctly/incorrectly, and please clarify anything I am misunderstanding. I don't profess to have all the answers to the issues you express concern about, but perhaps with more clear information, others may be able to support you in some way.