Shirannah
The Force is Strong With This One
Based on your story, I will admit that it seems that, in some cases, doing the "transgender thing" can be similar to correcting any other kind of birth defect such as cleft palate or spina bifida or deformed ankles or whatever. Especially if not fixing something causes some serious disability or extreme unhappiness.
But it also seems to me that the main issue of unhappiness has to do with sexual function, yes? Because, otherwise, one could simply dress as a woman and conduct life as a women, regardless of birth gender.
Do you mean sexual function, in having sex. With the created vagina. Well there are some very complex issues at hand with that. It all depends on the skill of the surgeon. The anatomy previous to surgery. The healing aspect also play a role. How a person heals. How nerves heal and such. The cosmetic part plays also a role. There are some cases, that all feeling is lost down there after surgery. So that is an issue at hand wich is hard to predict. But there are also many cases that all goes well, and normal feeling down there is retained. There are different techniques used to "create a vagina" one with own skin second with a piece of colon acting as the vaginal depth and wall. Both techniques are not superior and the honest truth is that any sex reassignment surgery is like playing russian roulette. Only in the hands of a skilled surgeon the outcome is more predictable. Almost all transgender woman need some form of cosmetic/functional surgery after "big"surgery is done. Naturally speaking skin that is turned inside the body wich does not belong there. And the body is trying to close it and it is seen as a big wound. Wich it actually is.
The second thing is. such a surgery taking hormones and having any other surgeries done is very traumatic for the body and mind.
You have those people who have a completely unrealistic view in the means to be a woman. Or have a "fantasy"to be on. Do all the things and they afterward their fantasy failed. Such individuals are mentally unstable to begin with so mentally ill.
A woman is not only devined what whats between the legs. Its the whole picture that counts. If someone looks male. You simply cannot change that. And that person will not "pass"as a female. Wich also creates spychological trauma. You can say that i was born with a birth deffect that was corrected. Thats how i view it. But viewing it from the true nature of or reality we simply do not know whatever causes it. Or if this is being done against humanity. What i want to say is this. Its not a simple as Harry becoming Tina, and is unhappy after the transformation. Perhaps the media makes it out like that. But it is not. Why are there very young children being born, and the moment they realize the difference between male and female, they say i feel like a boy or a girl. or I'm a boy or a girl. I was such a case and expressed myself around the age of 5 telling my parents i was a girl and getting angry if i was told i was not.
I have no problems with sexual function or anything related like that. But i think that such a surgery is only needed for the very extreme cases of gender dysphoria . And must be viewed at with a very strict eye. And the reality is, you cannot change a man into a woman or the other way around. But you can express the way you feel. And it should not be called sex change surgery. Because something like that does not exist.