Bluestar
Jedi Council Member
Tigersoap said:Another one is : I don't like "rich" people.
A certain type of attitude that will make me think of someone who has "money" and can do anything because he wants to triggers anger in me.
I'll start to be cold to whatever this person says or do.
As for example if someone with an expensive car parks in double line and blocks the way just to go speak to some woman in another car I start to have angry thoughts at this person who thinks he can do anything because he has a "status".
I have this program running as well. I actually noticed it some years ago when I was working at a private country club as a bartender/server. At first I thought it was just an observation, not a prejudgement kind of thing. But there was emotional responses that I noticed and my thoughts were prejudice.
There is a truth behind this because I have come to the conclusion that people with money(for the most of them) do have an attitude of privilege and expect that they have rights to behave a certain way. So for me part has been an observation and the lesson is for me how I react to it.
I do get angry at it, and sometimes hostile. For example, this weekend I was in Key West Florida for a "working vacation" and a well dressed, clean cut man was standing in the middle of the road. My husband drove up to him and waited for him to move. He gave us a glance and remained where he was. So my husband tapped the horn. The man took one step and still was blocking the way. A smirk came across his face. Finally as we inched up the car, he moved out of the way. I could not help myself and said to him as we passed, "Are you going to be an A*&#ole all your life." and we drove away. The guy was probably drunk, though he was very functional. Started to think about this some more and wondered if this man had been clearly a drunkard, messy dirty cloths and looked disheveled would I have reacted the same way? I think I would have felt sorry for the guy because of his drunken life. I did not feel sorry for this man. Thought that he must feel he is on vacation and can do what he feels like.
So I assumed that he was a rich guy with an attitude and gave him a piece of my mind. What if what he was wearing was his "Sunday best" and was a middle class man having his first vacation in a long time and was just drunk. My reaction is what is important. I could have asked him if he was alright. Instead I reacted with prejudice and anger. I am a work in progress. And I trust the next time I encounter something like this I will observe first before I say anything.