I think, IMO, wanting to be this or that is the first step, but ultimately STO and STS are ways of referring to certain attributes. We know that the way to be better, not only with ourselves but also with others is difficult. very difficult to do, but for example, a person who has problems being an STO would not constantly think of their actions as this or that, their essence comes to the surface when making a decision or sharing ... The simple fact cataloging us distances us more from the end than from what we really are. An example would be animals. a pigeon does not think "Oh, I can fly" just what it does by its nature, so the serious point of acting in the best way, and for that we know that we have many programs, many ego problems and normally we end up acting in the "less positive" way.