Not sure if I am reading what you meant wrong, but the thing with friction, is that no matter how hard we attempt to avoid it, most knowledge that sticks to our soul comes from situations where friction is essential.
Yes, sure, through friction, we are enabling actual knowledge to come through, either from within or from the outer influences, my experience is it is mainly combined...
And also from my observation, as I didn't do the Work with anyone like group work etc, and I just was reading about the concepts that were creating certain understandings in me, and I have never been in the situation of intentionally provoked shock to open the friction to help me to see better, but, once you came to this path, it is initiated to happen, and once shocked happen and friction was opened, I needed to go through on my own, and I realize that I can go above that, in a sense to be able to see "little" me in that situation separated from real me, and I understood that possibility to detach is what enabled the creative flow to exist, but not to implode, and what helped to enlight a new real knowledge in me ...
And, to go back to my expression of
"to seek new experiences with less friction" ... maybe you are right, it can be just another layer of "delusional" self-help, and for you who are doing work in the group this all my observations might sound funny and thx for helping and reading. So this is how I see it:
I came to the understanding that if the outer world is not prepared or ready for frictions, and usually it is not, but for the external world it is more like a conflict with it's own control system mechanics, in that case, I realize that after few intense frictions I went through, my energy of friction is changed, it is not any more explosive and "fast", and that new energy seeks more refine knowledge and more refine frictions and with robust people who are not even aware of them self, it is kind of violation of their free will, and if it can be "useful" to me, it will do absolutely wrong to them, and that way to me also, as the intent wasn't to do them anything that they don't want to be done to them. In that case, after the conflict/friction, they will be left with a control system understanding of the conflict, which is usually just a collection of negative labeling of why I did it, etc, without the possibility to analyze it objectively ... and in that situations, I find it to be a virtue to get through that friction, but easing the conflict part, or in other words, be aware of the opening of the friction crack within, while at the same time not breaking those who are not even understanding my point of approaching specific situation ...
And, at this phase, It will be indeed such a gift to be able to have an honest and objective mirroring of what I did and what I am doing ... so to me now, thank to your question and observation, it looks like I came here to ask for honest and objective "friction" guidance.