Brenda86
Jedi Master
Buddy:
I don't know about anyone else, or what they will say, but to me what you said here makes a lot of sense. I could almost feel it just resonating with something inside me.
Especially this part:
And I started thinking about how any feeling we have about ourselves can cause us to spiral downward, even "good" feelings about ourselves, if they have no 'grounding'.
And I was thinking this is why it is so important for us to observe ourselves first before we try to change anything. If you are operating under self-hate, you must observe yourself to find out what it is that is leading you to feel this way - am I really so loathsome? Well, let me look at what I am doing, thinking, etc. - which I think is what most of us are trying to do. But it just clicked when I was reading what you wrote here... the importance of finding 'ground', so your thoughts/emotions about yourself or anything else don't spiral out of control.
I hope I'm making sense. But I'm glad you posted this, Buddy.
I don't know about anyone else, or what they will say, but to me what you said here makes a lot of sense. I could almost feel it just resonating with something inside me.
Especially this part:
I can see a comparison of this experience to our feelings of self-hate and such, as being somewhat similar. Somewhere, at some point in time, something happened and we got disconnected from ground, and now, emotionally speaking, we have little footing, so our attention follows the flow into a vortex that starts at the surface level and slowly sinks downward, eventually gaining more and more momentum until it all drains into a black hole of pretense to non-being if we don't stop it.
And I started thinking about how any feeling we have about ourselves can cause us to spiral downward, even "good" feelings about ourselves, if they have no 'grounding'.
First, you must accept, temporarily, and for a moment, that the story is true on it's face. Then you look for the underlying data/facts on which it's based in order to see it for yourself.
And I was thinking this is why it is so important for us to observe ourselves first before we try to change anything. If you are operating under self-hate, you must observe yourself to find out what it is that is leading you to feel this way - am I really so loathsome? Well, let me look at what I am doing, thinking, etc. - which I think is what most of us are trying to do. But it just clicked when I was reading what you wrote here... the importance of finding 'ground', so your thoughts/emotions about yourself or anything else don't spiral out of control.
I hope I'm making sense. But I'm glad you posted this, Buddy.