Which is why I said I have nothing but love for ya – that and I was letting you know I don't take the grilling personally.
I would say that if he 'has nothing but love for ya' and expresses it by trying to 'bust balls', it's not a friendship that I would call sincere. If he really wanted you to know that he doesn't take the grilling personally, why didn't he just say that? What he said about the quote makes it appear that he takes it quite personally and was just waiting to find a launchpad to poke from.
Furthermore, I simply wish to read more read more about the Fourth Way before I get too involved, as it seems understanding the semantics and terminology would help me understand the group, and the group me. This only makes sense from a respectful perspective.
That sounds reasonable. If he really wants to put the effort into learning to speak the same language to better understand and discuss Work concepts, that's a great thing. I would suggest though that he makes a similar effort when chatting and joking. If he wants to maintain a friendship, clear communication and more obvious and tasteful jokes will be necessary. But I don't think he means it, or even wants to be friends - except in the context of keeping you on a string as a prospective convert to his way of thinking about himself.
Also, there are times when I have explained myself quite clearly and with the same respect I prefer to be shown (Golden Rule – not self-importance) and yet you have rejected my explanations[/b]
Well, you've explained yourself clearly with the same respect that you'd prefer to be shown too - so what's he complaining about? That you've rejected his explanation? Isn't he supposed to be all about allowing differences of perspective?
but if we can't at least agree on THIS, we pretty much doomed to alienate each other.
Agree on what? That you're allowed to see things differently but he's allowed to bust balls and you aren't allowed to be serious?
Spiral Out said:I'd like to get some feedback. Did I misinterpret his last message and didn't get "the joke"? Was it really "just a joke"? Is he really sincere or just trying to "save face"?
Yeah, looks like he's trying to save face but doesn't know it. He's convinced himself that it was a friendly joke - after the fact. And I'm sure he thinks his most recent reply is rational and respectful when he's really just saying "I'm right, right, right." - but his insincerity and double standards shine, shine, shine through.