SolarMother
Dagobah Resident
Alana
That is helpful. And, when someone points out to her that there is salad left-overs in her teeth, kindness is always appreciated.
Yes, I can say that I may be thinking wishfully about certain things. It is true that I don't know myself.
Yes, respect is important across the board.
There seems to be a certain style here on the forum, that consists of humiliating first, then expecting humility back from the person being humiliated. Just how productive is that? It is called 'self importance' when a reaction comes from a place of hurt.
When something painful is being pointed out to me, I respond better with some kindness being shown in the midst of the shock.
It is true that I lash out when I feel misunderstood. I will be looking at this.
I do need to take a break and process all of this.
If Ark is willing to answer my questions, I will look forward to that.
We hear you loud and clear, and we understand you better than you understand yourself. As uncomfortable as this might feel, it is true, for all of us. We can't see ourselves as others see us, period. That's why we use the network. A simplistic but too common analogy, is the one where someone walks in a formal occasion with greens on her teeth, smiling around thinking that she looks oh so sophisticated and charming in her new gown, until somebody points out to her that there's a salad left-overs showing in her mouth. It's better to be told that than not, yes? Otherwise the poor woman won't have a chance to look in the mirror and clean her teeth. It's a very simplistic example as I said, because in this instance, what you can't see about yourself is actually dangerous to you, your life and the health of this forum, compared to some food stuck in your teeth.
That is helpful. And, when someone points out to her that there is salad left-overs in her teeth, kindness is always appreciated.
I think it's important to realize how you may be thinking wishfully about many things, and to look critically at how you come across to others. Humility, which is defined as "the quality of being modest and respectful" is important, in a way we all are guests here, and it is only appropriate to take into account what others say, knowing that we don't know ourselves, and that we primarily can get to know ourselves from the point of views given by others.
Yes, I can say that I may be thinking wishfully about certain things. It is true that I don't know myself.
Yes, respect is important across the board.
There seems to be a certain style here on the forum, that consists of humiliating first, then expecting humility back from the person being humiliated. Just how productive is that? It is called 'self importance' when a reaction comes from a place of hurt.
When something painful is being pointed out to me, I respond better with some kindness being shown in the midst of the shock.
It is true that I lash out when I feel misunderstood. I will be looking at this.
I do need to take a break and process all of this.
If Ark is willing to answer my questions, I will look forward to that.