[quote:Vincent Bridges 425050]
Another interesting discusion at SnOTT:
http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=8708.msg62491#msg62491
Yesterday 18:24:13
Jimbo
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Registered: 2008-04-19
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Re: Personality Disorder Treatment
How can you tell if you are a hereditary narcissist yourself. My mother and grandmother, I am quite sure, are both narcissists and my brother (who is autistic) is obviously narcissistic. My father's not though or anyone on his side of the family. How can you tell if you're not a narcissist yourself? I have been looking online and there doesn't seem to be very good information for self-diagnosis since narcissists don't seem to self-diagnose very often. surprise, surprise. Im actually pretty worried now. Any suggestions?
It's better to be an unhappy Socrates than to be a happy pig.
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#7 Yesterday 22:37:11
Third_Density_Resident
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Registered: 2006-02-07
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Re: Personality Disorder Treatment
You can do a search on the internet for the commonly accepted criteria for NPD. Apparently you have NPD if you satisfy 5 or more of the following:
1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique
4. Requires excessive admiration
5. Has a sense of entitlement
6. Is interpersonally exploitative
7. Lacks empathy
8. Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
VB: This last guy goes on to do a self examination, which is a very good thing...LOL! It is certainly something Laura will not do...
But Purplehaze is still lurking, sucking up to the Great One:
Today 02:14:51
purplehaze
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Registered: 2008-03-10
Posts: 65
Re: Personality Disorder Treatment
Number 6 -- interpersonal exploitation. I take it this means using someone. I find the concept ghastly and abhorrent.
TDR - you haven't read the stories of the exposed on our website (http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com)
We spent most of our time helping the exploited try to pick up the pieces and deal with the aftermath; which inevitably involves personal smear & attacks by the disordered predator.
ACONS (Adult Children of Narcissists) usually become magnets for a lifetime of Ns. A certain amount of narcissism is healthy. A true narcissist, Jimbo - would never bother to ask they questions you are asking us and yourself. Why would a perfect person need to ask questions? wink
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#10 Today 07:30:57
VB: Okay, So with 3DR setting a good example and Purplehaze cheering it on, why wouldn't Laura check in with her own self examination? But of course, a pefect person doesn't need to answer questions...
Laura
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Re: Personality Disorder Treatment
purplehaze wrote:
A certain amount of narcissism is healthy. A true narcissist, Jimbo - would never bother to ask they questions you are asking us and yourself. Why would a perfect person need to ask questions?
That's pretty much it, you know. I don't think you really, REALLY grok the genuine narcissist. Having some narcissistic traits, and behaving narcissistically doesn't a real narcissist make, believe me! My mother was pretty darn narcissistic; you could even say she was a "narcissist" in a general sense, but she did not have NPD which is a whole other kettle of fish!
And that, of course, does not excuse or lessen the damage that a narcissistic person can do to others. Someone who does not have NPD can still cause a LOT of pain to others - as can any one of us if we forget others and stop trying to put ourselves in the shoes of the other person and see things from their point of view.
I just think about it as categories and gradations of emotional retardation. Some retardation is "fixable" to a great extent. Some "slow" people can learn a lot if care and the right approach is taken. Others can never learn anything.
Same with narcissists - but not NPD - the real thing. That's like profound emotional retardation, irreversible, can't be fixed, fuggedaboutit.
VB: Notice that Laura can only approach any kind of emotional or empathetic content through platitudes: "...as can any one of us if we forget others and stop trying to put ourselves in the shoes of the other person and see things from their point of view."
So how does she do with the checklist (Remember, five or more is a positive):
1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
VB: So let's not say the word cult; let's just say that she is the leader of a devoted group of followers who hang on her every word and troll through cyberspace looking for recruits and support and attention for her craziest ideas. She believes that her "information" is the most important thing going, that only knowledge from her ouiji alien contacts can save humanity, and that she is the target of a COILTELPRO action from multiple governments. If this is NOT a case of "grandiose sense of self-importance, I really don't know what would be...